Ordering someone around in a romantic relationship is very different from physically grabbing and removing them from a life-threatening situation in the heat in the moment. Only the latter is justified, by way of the concept of necessity.
Oh certainly, that's why I rarely if ever do it. If I do "order" around, it must therefore be a necessity where time is of the issue and I do not have the time to explain.
Thanks for the apologia.
You're welcome. Also, if that was sarcasm, I am on a crusade to remove sarcasm from the world, so I won't say sarcastic stuff, nor interpret anything said sarcastically as such.
The other stuff he said is just emotionally abusive, but on the topic of "emotionally abusive realtionships", there's plenty of that to go around, and without belittling your experiences, a lot of us have to work through shit like that. I don't think he (or anyone) is a dick because he's a dick (or because he has one
), but because he didn't know what to do either and just flailed around randomly just making stuff worse, or acting all offense-is-the-best-defense-y "yeah well you have cooties". I can relate to that
Most abuse is just from well-meaning but insecure people who have no idea how to constructively channel their emotions in a relationship, not by Evil Overlords, hence my apologia.
(Fakeedit reading ninja): Ah, you were in a mutually abusive relationship! Well, a soul without scars isn't pretty.
In my experience, gender based stereotype are pretty much as relevant as cultural based ones, or job based ones.
Which mean not all that useful because of their inaccuracies, but good to know anyway. And there are little things that are usually true and not obvious immediately (for instance girl tend to be much more insecure toward their physical apparence than men. If you have a girlfriend, anything regarding her appearance have to be a compliment, usually). But it's not always true.
Uh, yeah. This is the N'th time someone points out that "statistics don't count for every individual". We know.
It's relevant because radically throwing away all statistics because bigots think that it does is counterproductive. That most men act like their aforementioned appendages doesn't mean all men are dicks.
WILL YOU PEOPLE STOP POSTING
... And why exactly would you need to have forcibly moved someone out of a room? Any situation where you'd need to do that (or order someone to do something for their own safety) is very much an outlier, and not the kind of thing Vector is referring to at all.
Well, if you request for someone to leave, again, and again, then leave yourself but the person
follows you around and won't stop the incessant cackling, then order her to leave with a raised voice, then physically picking her up and locking the door (locking her out and myself in before you get the wrong impression) was the only solution without hitting her that I could come up with in the heat of the moment.
Doesn't happen often but it did happen (with different people) twice in my life. So yeah, outlier, but not outside the realm of acceptable behaviour.