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[Frumple]

Depends a lot on the person, and what works for you, yeah. I like meditation, occasionally swimming (not so much these days, but I do miss it, heh) or meandering around woodland/overgrown areas when it's cold enough (being florida, that basically means never, but still), and the standard gaming/reading/etc., m'self. Daydreaming/writing is can be pretty nice, too... just kinda' lose yourself in idle creativity. Used to really like climbing around accessible sand/clay pits and whatnot when I was younger, but my spine et al largely precludes that sorta' thing these days.

My mother does artwork, mostly painting these days. Grandmother does gardening and occasionally knitting and whatnot. Grandfather tools around with machine maintenance, mostly, or just sits outside and watches the sky/pets/etc. Sometimes even people watches, which is an odd alone time thing, but seems to work for 'im. Got more than one family member that does music.

There's oodles and oodles of things that are really good for alone time. Low-ish effort creative works tend to be a very common theme. Art, writing, maybe music composition or playing if that's your thing. Sing, if you can find an area sufficiently isolated/insulated that's a private thing. Write dirty limericks or drinking songs or whatev', it doesn't have to be high quality. Could do yoga, dancing, that sort of thing. Lot of time that sort of stuff's even nicer 'cause you can include others if you want to, but there's no explicit need for it.

[TheBiggerFish]

What Frumple said, yeah.

[Spehss _]

How am I supposed to memorize all these different subjects and equations and formulas and terms for a physics test aaaaaaaaaaa. I am going to fail this test why am I wasting time why am I such shit aaaaaaa.

[TheBiggerFish]

How am I supposed to memorize all these different subjects and equations and formulas and terms for a physics test aaaaaaaaaaa. I am going to fail this test why am I wasting time why am I such shit aaaaaaa.

Make flashcards, or an index card, or something.

You will succeed.  I know you can.

You made it into space.

[Orange Wizard]

To be fair, memorising equations is basically pointless outside of exams when you can find it in three seconds anyway.

[Vector]

-snip-

[IronTomato]

I don't know what advice to offer and that makes me sad.

Get better soon, or I will be rude to you.

[hops]

I read textbooks. It's better than just reading books because I don't have that nagging feeling that I'm wasting my time.

Besides, when I feel more sociable, I can then talk about art history and other nerdy things people I know talk about and not get bored out of my mind when the people at the LGBT group open their mouth and speak gibberish.

[Vector]

-snip-

[penguinofhonor]

Lately I've been taking walks by myself and taking pictures of flowers. I've also been trying to identify the plants - it's often a fun puzzle, and it's surprising how much there is to learn about plants I've seen hundreds of times. I didn't even know most of their names before, but now I can tell where there are going to be some berries in my yard from just the flowers.

[smirk]

Simple practical things can be good, too. Sewing is one that works for me; put on some background noise, cut patches, break out needle and thread, and manually patch some rips. There's a meditative quality to it, and patches can be made pretty.

[Solifuge]

Yeah. Taking walks by myself, reading up on something I wanted to read up on, cleaning up something at home, watching lectures or stupid videos on Youtube, etc. All good things I try to do when I need time to myself.

[Trapezohedron]

It's somewhat creeping me that TheBiggerFish started redacting *platonic* from their own hugs.

Have they finally realized their own feelings?! @.@

[Orange Wizard]

He's got the hots for all of us. RIP.

[Tiruin]

[Talking to others & therapist]

Awh :< I know that feeling muchly.
Though personally, I think your therapist will pretty much respect your decision to not talk to people because everyone needs their alone-time (or quiet time, time to think, time of tranquility, etc.). Maybe a suggestion their way on that path would be better because it tells them about a concern of yours :O
The only context I can personally see wherein they'd nudge you to talk to others is when that decision may become unhealthy, which...I don't think you'll slip into given how you're able to be vocal. Personally, I did non-verbal talking with my GC (Guidance Counselor) once wherein I used my phone to type stuff and tell her things which I couldn't verbalize or 'I didn't feel like talking about' or such. It's always better to talk to those who you're pretty sure aren't like the mean ones who create that sense of imbalance or 'aura of meanness' ._.
But mmph, hope it goes well there buddy.

[...]I'm a profoundly disagreeable person who argues with everyone (including, a lot of the time, Tiruin).[...]

And I love it when you do this, really. ;3 It helps me express what I think too--instead of letting me express in a way by which I only take what is 'generally best'. It's that wit which I love talking with because it creates a...'relate'ing environment.
I mean, you do this very well--you don't aggravate in your words, nor put on any aggressive tone. It's like a stern-but-kindly thing that I find myself fumbling with words over because I can't attach the right adjective to in the list of 100' or so adjectives in mind.

I find that you're not really a disagreeable and argumentative person--you're rather very witty, and well-versed in expressing yourself at higher-levels of thinking. It's a theme that is much less 'disagreeable' on the surface and more...thoughtful, as a core point.

On the alone time--pursuing personal preferences (even tiny, simple acts that don't seem that engaging) can work. Bird-watching, sketching a beautiful environment around you, walking in nature, or diverting your thoughts towards things you value.

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I've had reflection-advice from my social studies prof (who is pretty much very well known in our university) that I'm very well versed in cognitive thinking [...and may need more on the emotional part when that comes in x_x], so personal alone time for me is... thinking. Then having fun examining my thoughts and working on them like a machine. So I made a habit of jotting down my ideas as they come by at the speed of thought. I began to notice how sometimes, thoughts are like coordinate points--point A, B, C, D, in how they make up reasoning and personal sense, then when I got other statements {usually negative ones}, I broke them down and changed bits of them into a more...comfy feeling.
In other words, I also played a lot with Descartes' theories and graphing paper :v
[I should've become an engineer since that's what all my tests tell me I'm good at ;_;]

But sharing notes on alone time:
My mom knits, telling me it's her 'de-stressing' activity. She's able to knit up phone bags and tiny fluffy carriers for accessories and other tiny miscelleny out of yarn. She even made me a scarf out of my favorite colors...for a scarf ;_; [grey, white, and light gray]
My dad goes bird-watching, and photo-shooting pretty much everything in nature ever since he received a camera as a gift [he also got a saxophone and without knowing anything about it, did a ton of self-learning on playing it but that's another story]. We all didn't know the joys of bird-watching because it seemed very...hard. But with a forest as your backyard--it's possible, and he began to understand the joys of bird-watching because of how close-up you can get, and how nice those birds look.

Myself...I found writing and art-ing very good, even if they're just bits of art and tiny sketchies. Brought home tissue and used/misprinted paper as sketching material (and smudging material) in order to try out negative drawing. I've also found a combination of walks outside + letting my mind wander, usually along the theme that I'm seeing, as a very soothing note. Recently, I've been making art templates (drafts akin to storyboarding which makes a general idea before it's being made) which I found out could be used in other regards like drafting out how to cook something, or poetry making, or putting down my thoughts about introspection since that's where I found myself very good at.
Light gaming too--playing a bit of minecraft and designing structures and buildings in creative mode, listening to music while writing or drawing (esp. instrumental/epic instrumental music).
Lucid dreaming--I'm unsure how I started this, but whenever I had nightmares I noticed that...they really didn't hurt me no matter how damaged I was. I didn't feel pain so I took those opportunities to challenge whatever was hurting me. Hopefully not offending anyone here, as I'm only giving what I noticed in dreams or how I went around with dreams.

I've found that it really depends on the person's preferences. Usually before we find this out, we're unsure, and that's what makes the neutral ground before we start.

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Vision is deteriorating. Blurriness at a significant distance; I've been warned about this due to being born premature.
But arghh. I'm doing a lot of reading within my armspan by laptop or by books x_x and I've no idea how to compensate for that!

Well, science continues apace. Who knows, they may find a way to cure the issue before it becomes too bad far you.

Still, regardless, I hope that it doesn't proceed to worsen.

Erh .-. me too. I've found myself both intrigued and  when I compare my vision when without or with eyeglasses (11 year old eyeglasses...that still work). Somehow this gives me insight in a way.
But thanks for that.

Don't let TheBiggerFish hug you. I can't emphasize this enough. He started off platonically, but he quickly became nonplatonic. Consider yourselves warned.

This humor. (But we appreciate your hugs TBF)

It's somewhat creeping me that TheBiggerFish started redacting *platonic* from their own hugs.

Have they finally realized their own feelings?! @.@

Oh you.
I think he did that because he realized it's not needed because hugs are implied to be, y'know, non-anything-that-may-be-creepy.