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[Graknorke]

Bottling it up is when you simply push the emotions down and don't let them show. I'm seriously resisting the urge to quote Frozen here, but they were seriously right on the money - hiding emotion is baaaaad. Internalising everything ends with problems just going around and around in your head. For me, I did it for so long that I'd just kick everything inwards. Little thoughts would just sit inside and fester, going around and around until they became way too big and it ended with me punching someone anyway.

If the thoughts are sticking around in your head, it doesn't sound like you're "bottling" very well. Surely the point is to just ignore problems, rather than dwelling on them.

[Tiruin]

"Bottling" in my case just mean venting less. I don't think it's physically possible for me to not be whiny.

You can vent in a way which doesn't invoke misunderstanding in others. ;3
I'll send you a PM on that.

[Tack]

If the thoughts are sticking around in your head, it doesn't sound like you're "bottling" very well. Surely the point is to just ignore problems, rather than dwelling on them.

Observe the word 'bottling' and the metaphor which goes with that verb.
You're talking about letting your issues pass you by. Bottling indicates you taking those niggles and keeping them inside. Hence, festering. Hence, boom.

Also once again, Cinder nobody here will believe that you're ugly no matter how many times you tell us.
I am seriously worried for someone who can have that much self-esteem issues about something which simply isn't true. Do other people call you ugly often, which has caused this erroneous self-image?

[Worldmaster27]

Oh we're talking about internalizing emotions? I do that, except without the venting part.

* Worldmaster27 nervously laughs

I don't know how to explain what I feel in any case, so whatever. It's probably better left alone. No cares anyways, I'm nothing important.

[Rolan7]

I know I feel a hell of a lot better since I started drunkenly venting frustrations here  Instead of bottling them up, distilling them into resentful anger, then exploding at family members.  So embarrassing.

So yeah I think venting can be better than alternatives.  I'm not 100% sure grievances can be fully handled without at least expressing them somewhere, but maybe it's different for... healthy people.

Anyway Cinder you look great, I wish I looked that good.  Stupid rapid facial hair.

[hops]

I lost 3 carbon fiber arrows today. Just so you know they cost about $5 each.

Aaaaaaaargh I don't think I want to do archery anymore.

[Putnam]

If the thoughts are sticking around in your head, it doesn't sound like you're "bottling" very well. Surely the point is to just ignore problems, rather than dwelling on them.

Observe the word 'bottling' and the metaphor which goes with that verb.
You're talking about letting your issues pass you by. Bottling indicates you taking those niggles and keeping them inside. Hence, festering. Hence, boom.

Semantics are not an argument in psychology or indeed any science that completely replaces its knowledge base every 20 years or less.

IIRC, recent studies suggest in general that venting and not keeping emotions bottled up is very bad since, for the most part, it leads to associating anger with punching things and yelling at people.

[Descan]

If the thoughts are sticking around in your head, it doesn't sound like you're "bottling" very well. Surely the point is to just ignore problems, rather than dwelling on them.

Observe the word 'bottling' and the metaphor which goes with that verb.
You're talking about letting your issues pass you by. Bottling indicates you taking those niggles and keeping them inside. Hence, festering. Hence, boom.

Semantics are not an argument in psychology or indeed any science that completely replaces its knowledge base every 20 years or less.

IIRC, recent studies suggest in general that venting and not keeping emotions bottled up is very bad since, for the most part, it leads to associating anger with punching things and yelling at people.

Yeah, Tack, that's Star Trek: Voyager levels of taking an alright metaphor for a situation and running with it so hard that it breaks all meaning.

[hops]

* Cinder uses his emotions to power the FTL drive?

[Descan]

They once had the ship stuck in the event horizon of a black hole, saw a copy ship 'like a reflection in the ice,' and ran with it to 'find a crack in the ice' and rammed through a crack in the event horizon.

In case you weren't aware, that's fucking crazy. Event horizons are concepts, not actual structures in space, so you can't have a crack in them any more than you can have a crack in your miles-to-the-gallon and speed off on infinite fuel if you could just find a crack in your MPG.

[Arcvasti]

They once had the ship stuck in the event horizon of a black hole, saw a copy ship 'like a reflection in the ice,' and ran with it to 'find a crack in the ice' and rammed through a crack in the event horizon.

In case you weren't aware, that's fucking crazy. Event horizons are concepts, not actual structures in space, so you can't have a crack in them any more than you can have a crack in your miles-to-the-gallon and speed off on infinite fuel if you could just find a crack in your MPG.

Yes, but don't tell them that. The Enterprise is actually still stuck in there and they're just messing around with the holodeck to this day.

[Descan]

Well, Voyager. Though to be honest, if we could trap Archer in a black hole, I wouldn't be against that.

[RedKing]

They once had the ship stuck in the event horizon of a black hole, saw a copy ship 'like a reflection in the ice,' and ran with it to 'find a crack in the ice' and rammed through a crack in the event horizon.

In case you weren't aware, that's fucking crazy. Event horizons are concepts, not actual structures in space, so you can't have a crack in them any more than you can have a crack in your miles-to-the-gallon and speed off on infinite fuel if you could just find a crack in your MPG.

That would be Brannon Braga, the worst sci-fi scriptwriter ever. He also wrote a Voyager episode where they went Warp 10 in a shuttle, and it caused them to de-evolve into giant lizards.

[Gunner-Chan]

I really have no idea how I'm supposed to get through life feeling so incredibly, unfixably lonely and stuck inside myself every night. I keep ending up with no one close enough I feel comfortable to talk with all the time... No way to really escape myself and just not think about it. Very little to nothing for me to look forward to after coming back from work...

I don't know. Life just seems too hard these days...

I miss the older days so bad already.

[Niccolo]

Semantics are not an argument in psychology or indeed any science that completely replaces its knowledge base every 20 years or less.

IIRC, recent studies suggest in general that venting and not keeping emotions bottled up is very bad since, for the most part, it leads to associating anger with punching things and yelling at people.

Yes, no, maybe and yes again, oddly enough. Internalising emotion is downright unhealthy, but so is releasing it in an impulsive manner. It's all in how you burn it off that's key. Burning off anger by hitting a punching bag is a somewhat bad idea, since it does lead to the association you mentioned. But burning it off by other forms of exercise? Perfectly fine, since the relevant association does not form.

The problem with internalising emotion is that you can't do it forever. Eventually, something is going to be too much. And it won't necessarily be something big. But whatever it is, it'll set you off in a ridiculous manner, waaaay out of proportion to the actual event causing it.


This is one of those things where neither well-known option is exactly right - it's a middle ground that's key. It's all in how you deal with the emotive overload.