In which Vector leaves a thread for 1.5 hours, and it explodes in a flood of madness.
Do you hear yourself? She's repeated her lies and delusions to you she has almost made you believe them. Her behaviour is extremely selfish and downright retarded. She is projecting herself on others and have way unrealistic expectations. You are a good person and should not have to live with that, now go tell her that SHE is the one who have to get over it, and realize not all people are identical in their capabilities! 
Her behaviour is inexcusable, stop making excuses for her. Now go tell her to change and show you some damned respect, or else...
My mother is paying for my college education at an excellent university, and allowing me to continue school for the entire 4 years even though I could have graduated in 2.5. This will likely destroy a lot of her dreams for the future--she could have used that money for something else really important to her. My hopes are coming at the expense of hers.
People are selfish at the same time as they are grand and giving. I cannot condemn her for being imperfect, and I cannot move forward without considering her feelings--since otherwise she'll just feel hurt, and everything will be terrible.
Thank you, however, for caring. I really appreciate it.
Armok, shut the hell up. You barely know how to handle your life as it is, don't go making demands into situations you know a lot less than you think you do.
And even then you're only doing this because Vector is a woman. Say what you want but you know it's true.
Don't hate yourself over it though Vector. We all don't get along with our parents, they can be jerks but... Well people are people.
And a thank you to you as well, equally appreciated. It's good to hear some balance to others' opinions.
I think it would be best if everybody stopped attacking each other.
Seconded. I really appreciate everyone's advice and kind words, and I'm pleased to hear your differing opinions. It makes me sad, however, that you feel a need to attack each other based on your feelings for... some random person on the internet? I'm not lying, but I'm also not worth fighting each other over.
By the way, the reason I can't handle my own life is a specific handicap, the kind of high-level, abstract advice I'm giving here is not affected by that. I have pretty damn good phsycology grades, and vectors mum looks like almost a textbook case.
And WTF? Why whould you get the idea I considered anything black and white? And why the F*** is peaple acusing me of sexism?
I'm just trying to ****** help.
*sigh* The reason why this is a problem is because I'm exposing the parts that make Vector's mum look like a textbook case, just as when I expose certain aspects of my behavior/personality I end up looking like I have Asperger's of some severity. You're looking at things in a black and white way by virtue of my personal omissions. I can make my mother look like the best mother ever--giving, caring, loving beyond all reason. I can make myself look like a wonderfully social person, who gets every trick that one might need to see. I can also make my mother look like a crazy hag, and myself as a disabled, put-upon, and half-insane psychobitch. It's a little bit like those photos taken of political candidates: in the right moment, they look like angels. In the wrong moment, they look like they want to kill everyone. It's the same person, and we think of them differently based on different moments. We extrapolate from a millisecond to an entire personal universe.
For more clarity, it's because you're not seeing through the framing effect that's in play here.
You're getting accused of sexism because it seems that you're white-knighting and being cavalier for a woman, rather than for an arbitrary person--and the implication is that you think women need more defending than men do. You should decide for yourself which it is, because I don't feel capable of judging you.
There is exactly one problem in my life that I can't handle. Vector dosn't have that one. And to me, it seems pretty damn abstract, I basically am acting as a slightly more advanced version of ELIZA.
If you mean "go face your issues," then yes, it's abstract. The part where it becomes concrete is when you add in the emotional flavor with which you suggested I confront her--using words such as "demand," and so on. That makes more sense, right? I agree with you, of course, that it's not a good idea to run away, and it's generally a good idea to work towards a better future. The question is "what is feasible" and "what will the outcomes be." It's a situation I'm still studying very carefully in hopes of getting along well some day.
Cthulhu, this is between me and vector anyway, it's none of your bis. I get to take enough crap already without you dragging me down with some sad attempt at internet wit.
Sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself, yes?
So just take it. Understand that others have the right to refute your points and arguments.
Others have the right to refute his points and arguments, but I'm kind of sick of people trying to beat the crap out of Armok. If he's being insulting, then fine--whatever. We can fight insults with insults. There's no reason to be dicks to each other just because we give bad or unwanted advice sometimes. "Refuting points and arguments" is different from "upbraiding someone at length--to the point of dogpiling--whenever he says something you disagree with or think is insensitive."
Well, anyway. I'm sad we aren't getting along better.
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