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[Shadowlord]

Like a VN protagonist, you have to choose where you want to be and with whom. Unlike a VN protagonist, you cannot simply replay the game to see the other routes.

Spoiler: Choose the one which isn't a deathtrap.

[Yoink]

Damnit, maybe I should have actually forced myself to play some VNs in the past, I never realised there was so much to learn from them.
Now it's too late!

[hector13]

Well it's two days. Go on a VN binge.

That way you'll be so tired you'll pass out and miss them all equally

[WillowLuman]

I got stomach flu for Christmas. Nothing I wanted to work on got worked on, consequentially, and I only regained mobility this morning.

[Dozebôm Lolumzalìs]

Hey guys, it's been a while. I'm pretty sure I'm trans.

I came out to my parents. My mom was awesome as usual, while (as usual) being adorably and infuriatingly slow to think of me as anything but "questioning". Like, mom, I'm traaaaaaaans.

My dad was... as usual, different. Infuriatingly impartial, but I can deal. But then he started saying "dysphoria is a medical myth" and "labels are bad stuff, you shouldn't use this label" and stuff. Daaaaad, I know that being transgender doesn't mean I have to wear makeup and prance around. I've never cared too much about the gender norm, and that'll still be the case after I transition. He just seems a little disapproving. And c'mon dude, I'm crying at the restaurant because you decided to start telling me that my dysphoria didn't really exist, could you let off?

So yeah. First was the crying, which just came out and went on and on for several minutes, letting out the last few weeks of gender issues as well as the issues with my dad. And now... just feeling incredibly empty and unmotivated. I've read that's common for trans people - overwhelming sadness and then emotional deadness. (I've also read that a lot of things are common for trans people. Sitting down to urinate, preferring longer shirts... but that's not what convinced me I'm trans, it's just icing on the trans cake.)

[IcyTea31]

Yoink, you can grab your phone and use the wonders of social media to go to one party but be in spirit at the others as well. It might not be polite to use a phone during a conversation, but there are lulls in every party that you can use to connect with your friends who went to the others.

[Sirus]

Hey guys, it's been a while. I'm pretty sure I'm trans.

I came out to my parents. My mom was awesome as usual, while (as usual) being adorably and infuriatingly slow to think of me as anything but "questioning". Like, mom, I'm traaaaaaaans.

My dad was... as usual, different. Infuriatingly impartial, but I can deal. But then he started saying "dysphoria is a medical myth" and "labels are bad stuff, you shouldn't use this label" and stuff. Daaaaad, I know that being transgender doesn't mean I have to wear makeup and prance around. I've never cared too much about the gender norm, and that'll still be the case after I transition. He just seems a little disapproving. And c'mon dude, I'm crying at the restaurant because you decided to start telling me that my dysphoria didn't really exist, could you let off?

So yeah. First was the crying, which just came out and went on and on for several minutes, letting out the last few weeks of gender issues as well as the issues with my dad. And now... just feeling incredibly empty and unmotivated. I've read that's common for trans people - overwhelming sadness and then emotional deadness. (I've also read that a lot of things are common for trans people. Sitting down to urinate, preferring longer shirts... but that's not what convinced me I'm trans, it's just icing on the trans cake.)

Spoiler: maybe personal question, ignore if you'd like (click to show/hide)

So...how *did* you come to realize that you're trans?

Congratulations on a semi-successful coming-out. From some of the horror stories I've heard it could have gone a lot worse. Even if your mom was a bit hesitant at least she's supportive

[TheBiggerFish]

*hugs Doz*
Good luck.

[Kansa]

That took a lot of courage. I hope the next steps go smoothly for you, best of luck.

[Shadowlord]

"Medical myth?" Eek. Well, one hopes he doesn't deny science, and is just unaware of the science that has found a biological basis for trans-ness.

And best of luck to you going forward. Plus, you should know if you were wrong once you're on the hormones.

[TD1]

Out of curiosity, can being a trans on hormones effect grades in a bad way? One guy I knew has said he's trans, and is doing the hormone thing. He was a brilliant scientist person, A*s all round. Bit insufferable as a person, but that's besides the point. Anyway, he has failed a module in university, an outcome which even a year ago would be completely unthinkable. He was always very arrogant about his good results, so it wasn't that he didn't care about them.

[Rolan7]

Was it a math class?  (Sorry, joke)
Though honestly, college is a big adjustment.  Going into college arrogant certainly didn't do me any favors, rather the opposite.

Also uh, good luck Doz.
...I really need to see a professional, if only to get a few things straight in my head. 

[TD1]

It was a math subject.

And trust me, this boy was Oxford material. Best in the year. University is a change, but that wouldn't change the apparatus that was already there.

[Loud Whispers]

Out of curiosity, can being a trans on hormones effect grades in a bad way? One guy I knew has said he's trans, and is doing the hormone thing. He was a brilliant scientist person, A*s all round. Bit insufferable as a person, but that's besides the point. Anyway, he has failed a module in university, an outcome which even a year ago would be completely unthinkable. He was always very arrogant about his good results, so it wasn't that he didn't care about them.

It could be pure coincidence in timing, though completely altering your biochemistry and essentially reversing and then kickstarting puberty all over again won't do you any wonders. My only anecdote that is comparable, I knew someone who was a brilliant A* student all round (with incredibly high standards for himself, second place really put him down, it was unhealthy). Went to Uni as she - still a brilliant student all round, still competitive and still getting results. Did start drinking and doing drugs however, though I chalk that up to most people taking up drinking and substance abuse in Uni. So my anecdotal experience is that it wouldn't necessarily be of such an impact so as to turn a straight A student into a failed student, so other factors are possibly at play

[Spehss _]

Out of curiosity, can being a trans on hormones effect grades in a bad way? One guy I knew has said he's trans, and is doing the hormone thing. He was a brilliant scientist person, A*s all round. Bit insufferable as a person, but that's besides the point. Anyway, he has failed a module in university, an outcome which even a year ago would be completely unthinkable. He was always very arrogant about his good results, so it wasn't that he didn't care about them.

Transitioning from a non-college environment to a college environment could be difficult. Or classes he's taking now may be harder than anything he did in the past. Or any number of other personal issues getting in the way with doing well in a class. (emotional stuff, irresponsible decisions, parties, drugs, whatever)

I have no personal experience with it but I would think fucking up your natural internal chemistry could effect your ability to do well in school since the mind is inherently tied up with the physical body. Wouldn't seem any different than how eating badly or sleeping badly could impact abilities to do well in school.