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[Taco Dan]

It doesn't leave any room for people who describe themselves as asexual.

Wait... How you gonna make a baby with yourself?

_{You don't make babies at all.}

Oh wait that's asexual reproduction, sorry.

[Solifuge]

I may not know all the backstory behind this, but why?
Why bother to pretend to be somebody you are clearly not, to gain the appreciation of people, which do make fun of the way you talk and look?

I think it's just one of those "formative years" things.  You start being less controlled by your parents, and then you want to make your own choices about how you look and how you act and so on.  I was the only kid in my econ class who was willing to admit that I owned pretty much everything used--or anything used.  I'm also the only person I've ever seen walking around in Chinese blouses.

These choices may all be more "me" than various alternatives, but I can see how my stubbornness to be true to myself has caused me a lot of troubles over the years.  It's caused advantages--for some reason, professors seem to universally think I'm kind of neat--but also disadvantages, because my peers can't get past the wrapping to see what's inside.  It's like... if there's a village, and for some reason, it's a prime raider attack site.  It may be anti-military, but at the same time you can see the reason to raise a militia to protect itself.

I could go buy T-shirts, or I can go along with my plan of learning how to sew myself some old-fashioned blouses, vests, and trousers.  I could let my foundations of knowledge stagnate in hopes of talking a bit less like an encyclopedia, or I can struggle on.  Superficial choices, to be sure, but they're still choices--and now is the time to choose.

As someone who once compromised their integrity for the sake of fitting in, I can tell you that you might very soon seek to undo it, since the interaction it brought me was pretty shallow. Even so, it helped me learn a lot of things about how to improve the way I communicate and relate to others, so it can be a worthwhile thing.

I'm going to take a guess, and assume that your goal here is to better get along with people at large, not attract so much negative attention, or not be known first as "that strange girl" and moreso as any of the other complex layers that make you up. The trouble is, everyone I've ever met has had an outward shell like that; social pressures push us to simplify ourselves as some sort of Archetype, because it gives people something to group us with... though it's encouraged moreso in limited groups (the workplace, school, within teams), where nuclear groups of friends form. We adopt certain mannerisms and sayings, and we select a few of our interests that are easiest to relate to others, and usually make a big point of them, and so on.

It's possible that you've just made a point of rebelling from the norm enough that "that weird girl" is the Archetype you've built for yourself. If you want that to change, just try to take a step back, and think about what you'd like to be seen as by other people, and what sort of things you'd like to draw to you. Others aren't going to immediately see all the layers that make up your personality (and more often than not, they never will unless you share them), so spend some time thinking of a few things that you want to be known for, and the sort of interactions you want to encourage... and from there, brainstorm ways to encourage it.

Eh, rereading this, I don't know if I've really said anything here, or just reiterated things you already were doing... but maybe there's something valuable there. If you didn't mind being really bluntly candid with people around you, but you could always ask people what their first impressions of you are, and what they appreciate about you as a friend.

[Gunner-Chan]

Posting from the hospital. Whee! I can stay in touch it seems. I just need to sneak steam on this thing now.

[Heron TSG]

Why are you in the hospital?

[Gunner-Chan]

Visiting.

[MetalSlimeHunt]

Why won't they let you have steam?

[Gunner-Chan]

I just didn't want to put it on the main hard drive. I put it on my external.

[Rilder]

Cereal Sunday, heh.

Time to bust out the Ghost Busters Cereal then. (I wish)

[Urist Imiknorris]

This made me happy today:

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[Mindmaker]

I think it's just one of those "formative years" things.  You start being less controlled by your parents, and then you want to make your own choices about how you look and how you act and so on.  I was the only kid in my econ class who was willing to admit that I owned pretty much everything used--or anything used.  I'm also the only person I've ever seen walking around in Chinese blouses.

These choices may all be more "me" than various alternatives, but I can see how my stubbornness to be true to myself has caused me a lot of troubles over the years.  It's caused advantages--for some reason, professors seem to universally think I'm kind of neat--but also disadvantages, because my peers can't get past the wrapping to see what's inside.  It's like... if there's a village, and for some reason, it's a prime raider attack site.  It may be anti-military, but at the same time you can see the reason to raise a militia to protect itself.

I could go buy T-shirts, or I can go along with my plan of learning how to sew myself some old-fashioned blouses, vests, and trousers.  I could let my foundations of knowledge stagnate in hopes of talking a bit less like an encyclopedia, or I can struggle on.  Superficial choices, to be sure, but they're still choices--and now is the time to choose.

Been there, done that.
Learned from the experience and decided to stick to my true self.
But well, everyone should decide for themself, how they want to live.

Oh my, I thought metaphors were there, to make things easier understandable.
Took me several attempts as a non-native speaker to understand it (or maybe I'm just slow)

From what I've experienced, it's a waste of time to conform with people, who are not willing to look past your appearance, as they are not interested in what's behind it.
Of course, I can't (yet) speak for surroundings like universities, where you have a completely different level of education.

I had several occasions where people told me to wear/buy something, because I would "look good in it".
When I give in, I get this constant feeling of insecurity, like if I was denying who I really am.

Same goes with the way I speak.
I'm constantly using "High German", up to the point, where I feel weird, when trying to use slang.

Even if it sounds silly, I see my identity (which includes the way I dress, as well as the way I talk/behave)  as a shield and feel quite defenseless if deprived of it.

[Schilcote]

I have the sudden compulsion to fire up GraphicsGale and draw LS-001. Hmm...

[Realmfighter]

I have a job for this year.

[JoshuaFH]

Doing what?

[Realmfighter]

Running around selling peanuts.

But now, its in a air conditioned building.

Fuck yeah.

[Solifuge]

At times, Real Life really does need more Non Sequitur.