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[Boltgun]

Politely tell her to fuck off?  Seriously that kind of behavior is B.S. and the best thing to do for your own health is to stand up for yourself.

This won't do. God part aside (personal belief) she is just very worried about you. Keeping her in touch with what you do with your time to calm her down, at least for a while, might help better.

[Tiruin]

Politely tell her to fuck off?  Seriously that kind of behavior is B.S. and the best thing to do for your own health is to stand up for yourself.

This won't do. God part aside (personal belief) she is just very worried about you. Keeping her in touch with what you do with your time to calm her down, at least for a while, might help better.

This, Kal.

[~Neri]

If I recall. Kaladin's mother is literally insane.

Why are so many bay12er's parents off their rocker?

[Glowcat]

Even if her mom is worried about her, trying to guilt her into volunteering as some kind of punishment? Punishment for what? The only answers I can think of make her actions incredibly abusive.

[Tiruin]

If I recall. Kaladin's mother is literally insane.

Why are so many bay12er's parents off their rocker?

Even if her mom is worried about her, trying to guilt her into volunteering as some kind of punishment? Punishment for what? The only answers I can think of make her actions incredibly abusive.

We're not in any position to conclusively judge here, exactly, though :/ There are times wherein something meant well, or in the least neutral, could be misinterpreted due to the mood of the occasion, or on how one party perceives the other (what I'm saying is that we lack total context to judge, in the least).

...I mean, putting aside the...awry wording, volunteering doesn't have any wrong with it. Seems she's thinking that volunteering would instill duty, and I've no idea what a food bank is, (though it sounds like a nice place!) so it seems more like she's concerned for a sense of duty or purpose (ie How does she reason out you, Kal?). So putting it into perspective...we may be blowing it up a bit here.

...I don't see the guilt much, though.

Since I thought you were dead for an hour ||| you should go spend next Friday volunteering at the food bank to make up for it!

The two parts here sounds exclusive of each other because...they seem strange in wording, if they're related (so hence the unspoken reasoning again)

[i2amroy]

I've no idea what a food bank is, (though it sounds like a nice place!)

In the US food banks tend to work more of the backend distribution side of the soup kitchen "industry", i.e. they take in food donations, inspect them to ensure that they are still edible, and then pass them on to the various homeless shelters and soup kitchens in the area.

[Cptn Kaladin Anrizlokum]

...I don't see the guilt much, though.

Since I thought you were dead for an hour ||| you should go spend next Friday volunteering at the food bank to make up for it!

The two parts here sounds exclusive of each other because...they seem strange in wording, if they're related (so hence the unspoken reasoning again)

I shortened her exact wording, but that is the sentiment she was expressing... That, because she thought I was dead for an hour because she overreacted to me going for a walk, I needed to go to volunteer at a food bank to make it up for her.
Then she said if I didn't do that she would make me do volunteer work somewhere else instead, and that I'm not allowed to be at home that day.

I've just always got to be her "perfect son"... To the point where I got yelled at for not getting >98% on my biology final. 90% just isn't good enough I guess.
And it doesn't matter what I think...

She isn't even willing to accept that I'm asexual. She actually gave me a lecture once about how I wasn't asexual because she didn't want to have sex with many guys when she was younger. Because that makes total sense, right?

[Darvi]

Tir, you seriously need to learn the difference between condescencion and genuine concern. You'll just end up making an ass out of yourself one day.

[Tiruin]

Tir, you seriously need to learn the difference between condescencion and genuine concern. You'll just end up making an ass out of yourself one day.

Err, I did. The first part is the former, and the second part is the latter--that's how it looked to me, anyway, and there was nothing in the way of notice in telling why they are connected...which was corrected by Kal's latest post.
 
Edit: And it is thus revealed. 

[scrdest]

Hmm

Apparently my recordings suffer from some kind of deep brrrrrrr noise, and I have no clue why. I used the noise filter on my voice, so it seems Fraps might be to blame.

Sample pls?

[Spehss _]

I got, like, 2 hours of sleep last night. Was in bed by 1, couldn't fall asleep no matter how hard I tried. Didn't get any solid sleep until 6 in the morning, had to get up at 8 for a class at 9.

Huuuuuuuuuurgh.

[Kadzar]

Hmm

Apparently my recordings suffer from some kind of deep brrrrrrr noise, and I have no clue why. I used the noise filter on my voice, so it seems Fraps might be to blame.

Sample pls?

I dumped them after discovering that. And currently lack any way to stick them up right now.

I KNOW it's not my fans because that would come through Audacity, which, as I said, I used the noise filter on AND it would be high pitched.

Obviously it's a very passive-aggressive person trying to get you to turn up the thermostat.

[Itnetlolor]

As it turns out, a job I just recently got that looked rather promising was pretty much the opposite of it. Communication is not up there, the workloads, relative to the alotted time given, is inversely proportional (given a good dozen hours, work only half an hour, so far; and the job in general looks like a total of 3 hours, if I'm lucky, per-month), and so far, is the only job I've been able to get in the past couple months, regardless the dozens upon dozens of applications I send. Just as well, any effort I put in to finding work is met with similar results. It doesn't help that I have numerous debts I need to get out of either.

If it turns out that signing up for a job I'm entirely incompatible with, or apply to that demands 24/7 creativity while I'm on a dry-spell of creativity guarantees me getting work a thousand-fold, I'm giving up, and going back to minimum wage manual labor. At least then, I can actually sustain myself again. I feel like any/all of my prayers are muted, and God is not the God I've been taught about, and is instead a big child with a powerful toy, and a spiteful personality (like a kid playing The Sims). Actually makes me want to walk out on my faith. If our Lord is a loving one, then abuse does not equal love. I don't know what I did to piss Him off, but I'm pissed off at Him. I wonder which of us lost faith in who first? Tangible (me looking for work) and intangible (praying, begging for help, attending weekly mass, etc.; even showing patience when I had none remaining) efforts, for months, not showing anything, at least sufficient/sustainable, is enough to make anyone want to give up. Funny enough, I think even showing justifiable frustration is a sin; because anytime I mention having it, seems to welcome more crap from anyone/anything and everyone/everything.

EDIT:
Looking back at the post again, and considering everyone has times they feel like this, now I feel guilty for voicing it at all. Clever...

Looks like the lottery/scratch-offs is still a viable option; albeit, an extraordinarily stupid one while at it. But it's the only option left for me, again. Why do I feel this trope is the most relevant to me lately?

[WillowLuman]

Aquí vienen los vientos de Santa Ana. Adiós, invierno...

[flabort]

Thanks for the water, Xantalos.

Today I'm sad because I have no place to rage.

Spoiler: rage (click to show/hide)

Work changed thier policy on staff meals. It used to be, for the 2-3 years that I've been here, you could get $10 + a drink for your lunch. A couple months ago we got a new boss, and the drink was now included in the $10; not bad, I wasn't even using the whole $10.

Today... The price thing was abolished in favor of a super limited list of items you're allowed to eat: A burger+fries, or a pita, or a breakfast sandwich. Plus a drink, but only in a can. I don't like any of those, and all the healthy options are banned now.

That's it, I'm so freaking tired of having my chain yanked. I am witing up my resignation tonight.