Hmm, unsure if this is talking about feelings and emotions, but as I read this, thoughts came by about my past which I would like to share. :O As a general note.
Feelings and emotions are guides. They are not your choices.
Feeling fully in control of your own actions is a subtle notion--defining the grounds here, if you choose not to act, and instead idle around, that exemplifies the projection of your choice, and thus shows your control; one thing to note is that the usual belief of 'I should act as to how I feel' is termed as emotional reasoning: it is fallible, and not always right. It is fallible, and not always wrong. Just because this notion is known now, doesn't make you any less of a person or a bigger failure (failure is an empirical construct--it does not predict the future [ie What you CAN be and who you are], but describes how one perceives the present). It's the knowledge you have and how you use it.
There's the old adage which speaks: "Push yourself towards your dreams, and alight from roots which do not feel." You need an idea, and you need a goal, not necessarily the motivation to do such acts, but the idea that you have a 'destination'
per se, at hand to do. Push away the notion of success and failure, but keep in mind the idea of that goal, and that it will be done (obviously considering ethics, given the general tone of my words here).
If feelings and emotions ruled lives, as a primary consideration of life, then many,
many things we see today would not exist, as well as the many uplifting and 'honorable' attitudes we look up to wouldn't exist either.
To top all this off, I'll share a bit of myself these past months: I feel 'numbed'--I don't feel happiness, joy, sadness, guilt, fear, anger or otherwise, yet I am happy and able to act, because of that knowledge above. Currently, I don't feel happy when helping others, or guilt when considering a lie, probably having pulled myself into the cloud of thought and logic, though this does not necessarily feel the same either. It's my childhood all over again. x3
However what I can say, is that in the end of things, there's always the choice I've got. It's what got me through my bad childhood, despite the good wishes of others who made it bearable, and its what got me through multiple thoughts of [really bad things like depression]. Looking at others, there's always the one (and more) who are open to aid ya. There's always the point of value towards the external, and there's always the factor of choice.
One question to be asked, is Can you do this?
Another question afterwards is What makes me say no/yes?
You can do the thing, Shook (and many others)
That's the power of control and choice. It can overcome the lack, and the void.