Bearing in mind that I'm not a doctor:
Transgender people hate themselves.
That's a misunderstanding. They can be depressed and end up trying to kill themselves, but that's the result of having a severe case of gender dysphoria and trying to live with it instead of getting the appropriate treatment, etc etc.
They should learn to accept their body.
Not usually possible. Gender dysphoria can worsen over time. Not everyone who goes untreated for decades ends up killing themselves, of course, but iirc beginning to transition at the beginning of puberty is ideal. And social transitioning - i.e. pronouns, etc - can be done even earlier.
Dysphoria is solely caused by society and gender roles. It does not exist beyond these roles, and to transition is to accept those roles.
If you are trans, that means that you're supporting the existing societal norms that resulted in your dysphoria.
ScienceI'm sure your dad knows plenty of girls who wear jeans and t-shirts, just like men. And women who don't wear makeup. Okay, probably doesn't know many of those.
To trans women, the penis/male body represents toxic masculinity.
I can't tell you what "trans women" in general think about the penis. But... this seems unlikely. According to some study I saw, only a small fraction of them are lesbians, most are straight. It's not about "toxic masculinity," it's about whether your body and brain have a mismatch. And I assume some are good with having a penis, but I don't know. Genital reassignment surgery is very expensive, so there are a lot who haven't had it done who may still feel a need to have it done.
Trans people are obsessed with their appearance.
Considering most transwomen did not learn, as children/teens, how to do makeup and all the other things women have to do to be conventionally attractive and pass as women in our society, and considering that failure to pass can get one beaten or killed, of fucking course they're often going to be obsessed.
Take, for instance, Caitlyn Jenner - she's spent so much money on attaining her concept of the ideal ultrafeminine body.
Caitlyn Jenner is a special snowflake. One, she waited a very long time. Two, because she waited a very long time. Three, because she's really, really rich, and could afford all the surgery she wanted.
Transgender is like transrace.
There is, so far as I'm aware, no biological basis for race. I mean, we categorize people based on their skin color, but that's unscientific. There are people with african or mixed* heritage who are able to pass as white, and in so doing avoid a lot of prejudice and racism. People don't experience racial dysphoria, so far as I'm aware.
* Virtually all african-americans have mixed heritage, presumably due to the literal rape of slaves by their white owners.
Women and men are the same, right?
I don't suppose he's tried to instill this idea in you for your whole life, resulting in your prior confusion in this thread as well? It's a fine hypothesis, except it's counteracted by evidence. Once upon a midnight dreary, babies whose circumcisions were botched were transitioned to and raised as female, which turned out, when they got older, to cause... surprise! gender dysphoria!
Trump can't see that. He thinks that there's a crucial difference between women and men. You don't want to be like that.
I CAN SEE
DEAD FALLACIES
"You know who else liked puppies? Hitler. Hitler liked puppies. You don't want to be like Hitler, do you?"
Since gender is socially constructed
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, and you shouldn't consider it to be too important, why do you think you're trans? Doesn't "transgender" imply that there is something more, something real, to gender?
And therefore this is irrelevant.
You know your cousin? They're genderfluid. That's better, because it defies gender roles.
It's better
if you're genderfluid, sure. It's not something you can choose to be, though, afaik.
Just be you. You don't need to change yourself to be somebody else.
Is he afraid that you'll cease to exist and be replaced by someone else if you transition?
Remember your other cousin, the trans one? She's conforming to gender roles too much. Why would you constrain yourself like that?
I am disturbed by people, cis or trans, conforming to gender roles. But to be trans implies that you are conforming to gender roles.
Says the same guy who also said "just be you"
? O_o
Gender is ephemeral. Why would you do something permanent to your body when your gender might change later?
Guess what else does something permanent to your body? Puberty. Time is a thing which flies and stuff.
If you don't know what it means to be a "boy" or a "girl", how do you know which one you are?
Euuuurgh.
Don't let yourself get caught by the medical discourse.
Euuuurgh.
Dysphoria is not real. It is the pathologization of difference, just like how homosexuality was pathologized.
Thinking that your body is wrong = pathologization.
Forcing a trans person to keep their natal (birth) gender is like forcing homosexuals to "just be straight."