Or altnernatively "I have experienced X and you are telling me it's actually Y".
This, thank you.
I'm not really following his line of thinking, nor why you agree with his summary so readily. You were arguing about the definition and purpose of an ideology, not an experience. Is Feminism some sort of spiritual journey? Do you receive the holy ghost of Susan B. Anthony? If you don't agree with someone's definition of a term, you should be able to explain your view in a succinct, logical way; you shouldn't just leave and declare that you're "not going to argue back and forth . . . because I have actually done the research." Such a manner of leaving an argument is a cop-out.
VoxieG: Your statement helps nothing. It's just trash talk that the thread could do without.
You have a rather broad definition of the term "trash talk." I'm not trying to intimidate or threaten you, I'm merely telling it as I see it—albeit in a sarcastic way.
Is that you, Magic Missile?
I have no idea of whom you speak, could you perhaps explain?
the point being, (and the continued sarcasm isn't appreciated,) is that, speaking from a position of experience, it is very frustrating to argue with someone who does not have experience on the issue who steadfastly rejects what you are trying to explain to them. It's not that he can't have an opinion, it's just that I feel I am wasting my time arguing it. I feel my point has been made as succinctly as necessary.
Like I said, I am not a pro at communication. I come off as rage-y, because 1) I am a pretty angry person, but rightfully so I feel in many cases, and 2) written word seems to convey more anger than I mean for it to.
I had a guidance counselor that had these stickers that said "if you aren't angry, you aren't listening." I tend to go by that rule, though I am not saying it is optimal.