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[Heron TSG]

Sorry, I'm just not having a very good week/month/year.

It is okey dokey. I'm on one of those literature/grammar/word choice murder sprees that I seem to get after absorbing more than a cubic foot of reading material. Don't mind me.

[GamerKnight]

It has been almost 4 months now (right?) If you haven't asked her out she's going to get asked out by someone else soon.

[Caesar]

So, Kaiser, another weekend has gone by. Did you do it?

You confused me there for a moment. I thought you meant to jokingly refer to me by 'Kaiser' until I realized the Original Poster went by that name.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

Hmm. She's not free this weekend because she'll be at a convention, and it's unlikely I'll stay with her there long enough to go home together if I visit, she'll be with her own group of friends cosplaying with her.

Pulling her away for a bit and suddenly blurting it out wouldn't be very smooth, so I've next weekend unless some sort of opportunity shines through while I'm there.

[GlyphGryph]

STOP. WAITING. FOR. THE. RIGHT. OPPORTUNITY.

STOP STOP STOP
Seriously, if you're not going to see her again for a while, you REALLY want a free weekend AFTER sharing your feeling.

There are so many perfect opportunities you have in such a situation, you simply need to make them. As in, don't wait for them. As in, you have no excuse. If it doesn't happen it is very much your fault.

Ask her to go with you for a quick walk outside, for example. She says no? Tell her there's something you really want to talk about. She still says no? Ask her if she will later (set a time). If she STILL says no, tell her there.

This is it.

This is your chance.

Stop making excuses! Make. it. happen.

[Vector]

Pulling her away for a bit and suddenly blurting it out wouldn't be very smooth, so I've next weekend unless some sort of opportunity shines through while I'm there.

Oh, forget about smooth.  Just run with it.

[DJ]

Smooth is for hitting on girls you don't know. She knows you well, you don't have to prove anything. Hell, she might think it's cute if your cheeks flare up and you stutter. Don't try and fake it, though, women can smell fear so she'd know you're faking it.

[MetalSlimeHunt]

Kaiser, I am really begining to question how much you want to try to create a romantic relationship with your friend. It's been weeks now.

[GlyphGryph]

"November 15, 2010"

More than weeks, man. A lot more.

[The Scout]

Show her this thread. She will know everything. But I'm not liable for the damage she may do to you, not a bit.

[de5me7]

practice the art of seduction

Woof

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKfbSHW9uGA



on a more serious note, if you really cant bring yourself to ask write a letter (dont text, dont email), and be honest in the letter about being too scared to ask.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

Alright, ladies and gents, I did it.

I was pretty lucky to catch her with only one of her friends around, and a friend of mine distracted her friend with discussion on paper mache. I asked to borrow her and brought her outside in her stuffy costume, turned around the corner to a fairly vacant spot near the wall and hesitated for about 5 seconds before flat out saying that I'd grown to like her. That her costume was covering her eyes helped, or I would probably have stuttered. Then she said she'd been expecting this for a long time and would have replied with a nice long text wall if I had told her over IM, but summed it up into "I'm willing to go into a relationship with you as long as you promise it won't affect our friendship". Pretty much the same thing I've been fretting over. Then she went into how obvious it was to which I replied I had never really tried to hide it other than not ever outright saying it, and more idle banter until we went back in.

I'm still not sure if she feels the same way just because she's willing to date me, but it's still a load off my mind. A big thanks to all you guys too for finally making me do it. Went better than worst-case scenario, at least.

[MetalSlimeHunt]

See? She knew all along and here you were hesitating.

As I recall, you said this friend of yours wasn't the most social person in the world. I don't know, but it seems doubtful that she would date you without feeling the same way if it wasn't a socially pressured thing. On the other hand, you and her are old friends, so she might be trying not to hurt your feelings in the worst way possible.

In any case this is, as Jefmajor says, Progress! Now, you should probably plan somthing before you get too busy to upkeep this relationship you have started for yourself. Good luck.

[Joshua IX]

AWWWWWWWWWWW Good times Kaiser!

Just have some confidence in yourself! I'm sure she does like you or she wouldn't have said she'd go out with you. If your great friends I'm sure you'll have a lovely relationship

[GamerKnight]

Good on ya.