As for the matter of pursing your old crush, it's basically an issue of pride. Emotionally immature people (which is what most teenagers are) can be painfully wishy-washy with their decisions. I expect that if you try anything she'll just change her mind again. I spent my entire high school life going after one chick because she kept giving and withdrawing her affection at strategic moments to keep me perpetually hooked. This wasn't some calculated thing, it was just the way her mind worked.
I got more from her than I would have if I did nothing, but it wasn't worth it in the end. You need self-respect. You need to say no to people who try to play games with you rather than treat you like a fellow human being. I know society tells you that games and mind-reading are just how dating works, but it isn't. There are people out there who will express their feelings plainly, or give you a fair shot if you make the first move. It may not be exciting as this constant mysterious back and forth of "will she or won't she", but it's a lot less complicated and a lot less anxiety inducing, and in my opinion, creates a stronger foundation for a relationship where both partners are supposed to be equals.
Yeah I was worried whether she'd become wishy-washy as you said. I'm very much not planning for an unreliable, close-and-distant relationship. Or mind games. Plus the whole situation and history around it constructs complicated emotions on my end towards the relationship.
I don't know how your classmates would react to that approach, but if you're at the point where you're asking for dating advice on the internet, then high school probably isn't the time your love life is going to bloom. The guys who get laid all the time are able to do it because it comes naturally to them. They don't think, or scheme, or plan, they just do.
Well, the question isn't about my skill or
how to pursue one girl or the other, it was mostly about what I should do. A decision, not the execution. I don't see any reason why it necessarily shouldn't blossom. I'm asking on the internet because this is something that may be awkward to talk about with my parents or my friends. In particular my friends know the people involved -- I'd like to avoid potential drama. Also I'm not sure how much it was a part of your reasoning but I'm not looking to, erm, get laid.
Conversation actually flows rather naturally with both of them, including the flirting, but I guess it just feels particularly more natural with the old girl. She says she enjoys talking with me and that I'm funny and sweet.
Point taken about the self-respect though. And about new girl not being a factor in pursuing old girl, and about being in a relationship for its own sake and passion and all that.
Wait and see what happens, but don't be upset if that happens to be nothing. There is more to life than love and sex.
Trust me, I know. Just trying to resolve the problem.
Plan of action is to just talk with both of them for now. I may ask the old girl how she feels now in the future, but I don't think right away, because it may imply to her that I'm looking to start a relationship when I'm not sure yet. Just would be bad timing.
Anyway, thanks for all the advice!