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[Dunamisdeos]

Today I'm gonna take one of those yakisoba noodle boxes from Maruchan, heat it in chicken broth with some hoisin mixed in, and put some actual steak slices up in there.

Will report back in the food thread.

[ArchimedesWojak]

the F.A.T.A.L rulebook is an "interesting" read

[bloop_bleep]

inb4 mercury infused instant noodles

EDIT: Also, any further responses to this?

I'm no life coach but it really doesn't sound like you owe the person you're "just talking" with anything at all. If you're still in the indistinguishable-from-friendship stage, you're unlikely to really do something wrong.

It does sound like the thing you're hoping to be told to do is go for it with the person you're more interested in, which in this case means you probably should do that. Just be prepared for disappointment and try not to feel let down if it goes nowhere. Plenty of people flirt while having no intention of going further, it's an activity in itself.

I don't know anything about your life, so take the above with a massive pinch of salt. I'd advise you not to stop talking to either of them whatever happens, though.

You know, I thought there was a big period without communication but actually it's been pretty consistent, every few days or so, though it isn't always a long conversation. She does contact me at around that frequency. Also I was thinking maybe I'd start to feel it at some point? Is that something I should explore?

It does sound like the thing you're hoping to be told to do is go for it with the person you're more interested in, which in this case means you probably should do that.

I'm not actually.  Actually wondering. If you missed the soap opera before, this girl who I had a crush on, turned me down previously some time ago, and told me that she used to have a crush on me,. Hence the complicated situation. And complicated emotions.

[Maximum Spin]

EDIT: Also, any further responses to this?

Sure: "Honey, love the one you're with."

[heydude6]

When I was in high school, my "girlfriend" was totally okay with me pursuing other women. She'd even ask me if I had any luck with a specific gal, and gave me the classic "better luck next time" when the inevitable failure response came up. She just wanted me to be happy.

Ours wasn't a real relationship and neither is yours. Your current girl shouldn't be a factor in your decision to pursue your old crush. There's no point in having a relationship for the sake of having one. Passion is an essential ingredient and you lack it.

As for the matter of pursing your old crush, it's basically an issue of pride. Emotionally immature people (which is what most teenagers are) can be painfully wishy-washy with their decisions. I expect that if you try anything she'll just change her mind again. I spent my entire high school life going after one chick because she kept giving and withdrawing her affection at strategic moments to keep me perpetually hooked. This wasn't some calculated thing, it was just the way her mind worked.

I got more from her than I would have if I did nothing, but it wasn't worth it in the end. You need self-respect. You need to say no to people who try to play games with you rather than treat you like a fellow human being. I know society tells you that games and mind-reading are just how dating works, but it isn't. There are people out there who will express their feelings plainly, or give you a fair shot if you make the first move. It may not be exciting as this constant mysterious back and forth of "will she or won't she", but it's a lot less complicated and a lot less anxiety inducing, and in my opinion, creates a stronger foundation for a relationship where both partners are supposed to be equals.

I don't know how your classmates would react to that approach, but if you're at the point where you're asking for dating advice on the internet, then high school probably isn't the time your love life is going to bloom. The guys who get laid all the time are able to do it because it comes naturally to them. They don't think, or scheme, or plan, they just do.

Wait and see what happens, but don't be upset if that happens to be nothing. There is more to life than love and sex.

[hector13]

Like shitposting on the internet.

[EuchreJack]

Like shitposting on the internet.

Thanks, I needed that!

[None]

Man, I've sought dating advice as recently as last month, and I round up to thirty. Stuff just isn't easy.

Speaking of shitposting, send her that Bernie meme captioned "I am once again asking you on a date." You'll get a read on where she's at pretty quick that way.

[pisskop]

Just ask her if she likes trump, then keep a blank face and a scholar's cradle.

[Rolan7]

Man, I've sought dating advice as recently as last month, and I round up to thirty. Stuff just isn't easy.

Speaking of shitposting, send her that Bernie meme captioned "I am once again asking you on a date." You'll get a read on where she's at pretty quick that way.

Oooh I want to steal cooperatively utilize that one.

[hector13]

I married my first love, what is dating?

[Lord Shonus]

I don't have to worry about dating. I'm obnoxious and disliked.

[None]

Hey, I'm also obnoxious! We have so much in common! Let's get coffee and talk about it some time?

[Vector]

now kith *_*

[hector13]

Did not take you for a voyeur, veccles.