So I'm a pretty normal guy, have a serious girlfriend, not haunted by any of the doubts or fears a lot of you are, I just kind of do what I want. I'm not all that into physics or computers or ninjas or kendo or any of that stuff.
Normal guy with a serious girlfriend--not exactly the nerdy type, follows his own volition, no doubts and fears.
Got it. You're a brave guy with a status symbol, and you need us to know that for some reason.
That said, I've noticed an alarming trend where "smart" guys - geeks and nerds in particular - have notoriously bad luck with girls. A lot of them are super conscious of morality, strive to be peaceful and respectful, deeply philosophical, etc - and that doesn't get them anywhere with chicks.
A lot of the nerds I've met think they're doing that, yeah, and then they ignore the girls/guys in favor of their computers or say shit like "Oh! You're having a problem. What do you want me to do about it?" Most nerds I've met also have this trouble with arrogance, where they'll say things like "I am conscious of morality, peaceful, respectful, and deeply philosophical"--and then can't take any criticism of their moral and philosophical choices or even get so far as saying they're sorry.
In other words, most of the nerds I've met have this leeetle problem with being emotionally disconnected and uncaring. Sure, they look great on paper, but when it comes down to it they're more intent on protecting themselves than being emotionally engaged.
As a female nerd, I speak for the female nerds I've met as well (and myself). We all have this problem. Certainly, there are some that are more well-adjusted than others, and I commend them--but the nerd stereotype isn't all it's cracked up to be.
Meanwhile, most of the smart chicks I've met are just like regular and dumb women except they get better grades and maybe are more likely to forgo a higher salary to work at a nonprofit.
If you're still in college or live near one, go sit in on a graduate-level math course. One of the intro courses, because you're more likely to find a girl or two in there (some of the later courses will have only three students or so, and as such you're less likely to find a woman). Talk to her and see if she comes off like the "regular and dumb" women.
Or, more precisely--your experiment has bias. You're equating "male nerd" as a subset of "smart male" and "smart female" as a group in and of itself. There's a reasonable likelihood that you've never spoken to a female nerd, given that they can be hard to find.
Female nerds are just as into philosophy, respect, peacefulness, and morality as their male counterparts. Well, not me. You can't say I'm all that peaceful or respectful--I like hitting things with sticks way too much, and am not all that fond of idiots--but then, you can't say that of all male nerds, either. I used to know a nerdy guy whose professed religion was 'anti-idiot,' and he was serious about it. The guy was also a devout Buddhist, so I guess that covers your philosophy, peacefulness, and morality bases fairly well.
Do you think it's safe to say that males are simply deeper, more philosophical, and more intelligent than women? Are the nerds and geeks evolving past the rest of us without enough females to keep up with them?
Once again, you evoke this fallacy: you state that males are deeper, more philosophical, and more intelligent than women, while your statement previously spoke about nerds who can't get women. So, your 'representative minority' of nerds is being used to elevate males in general.
Furthermore, you seem to have this odd opinion that women are becoming antiquated thanks to some subset of the human race theoretically becoming smarter and less warlike. Sorry to burst your bubble, doodabuddy, but humans are organisms. Organisms make babies. If you want more babies, then you'd better have a human woman to screw. It's the way it works, unfortunately, and no amount of male supremacist wankery is going to make that fact go away: we're the ones with the wombs. Until you replace us with cloning vats, I must gently suggest that you stop lording your "gifts" over we pathetic and under-endowed creatures. That kind of attitude isn't exactly conducive to getting dates.
I'll also state that, since you're inflating your entire half of the human race based on a mere handful of unusual specimens and asking us if it's "safe" to assume that inflation, you seem rather less self-confident in your own worth than your initial statements might assume. If you want to put yourself on a pedestal, do it elsewhere. Don't hijack a thread about sexual preference for that purpose.
Or is this theory just ignorant and misogynistic?
You don't want to see my original response. Your theory is extremely misogynistic, not to mention logically flawed and based largely on your own personal experience. Go spend more time with women and see if they're actually as dumb as you seem to think they are.
To be on-topic: I'm part of the virgins waiting for love crowd, as well. As far as why one wouldn't want to go have casual sex: well, I'd rather not deal with the oxytocin floods and potential pregnancy/STDs, myself. I'm only willing to get myself that fucked over emotionally and physically for someone I really care about.
Dunno if it's "by choice" or not. The opportunities haven't exactly presented themselves, though that may be because of other personal choices I've made. *shrug* I've never been whistled at/checked out and so on, either, so I'm guessing it may have something to do with the way I dress/act.
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