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An idiot brother will be an idiot in prison now, likely for 10 years. Meanwhile his badly planned for family is screwed. Little to be done. Not familiar to them.
Considering helping the 18 year old. Potentially difficult, frustrating, and dependent largely upon if he listens/obeys/learns from me and rejects his imprisoned dad.
Middling grades (an accomplishment given his father), no trade or skills, and as yet no criminal records (which I would certainly know if it existed).
Gen Z has it hard, as did/do Millennials. Rent, food, etc is high. His dad did him no favors. Not military material. He has no prospects, exactly as I feared.
Possibly a room, maybe an old car, and lessons if he shuts up and learns from me. Don't know rent would be charged, but conditions apply, perhaps:
1.) I'm disabled; mow the lawn/keep up the small yard. Speak to my nurse and tell me what she says behind my back. (I record her, but want a witness).
2.) No drugs; no smoking; no alcohol (He's under 21 and the local law hates that anyhow). Your mind is to be clear if only for your own benefit. Probably rare armory locker access only with prior permission, NRA safety course/license, and clear, disassemble, assemble, and perform functions check procedure under my strict instruction.
3.) No criminal activity; represented all of them anyhow, know every prosecutor, police officer, bailiff, PO and judge, so I'll know. And yes, they'll let me know.
4.) Have use of [car description] within set reasonable standards and will maintain insurance (I can secure discounts) and gas. Learn to drive from me, yes even if you know already. Situational awareness, bearing, option weighing, etc. It's all about safe driving while you save up and keep your record clean/insurance costs low. Also thought.
4.) Slowly build skills for self sufficiency (cooking, laundry, basic repairs and projects, painting, cleaning, etc.).
5.) Local employment. Can assist with this in multiple ways and develop a career plan. Keep me informed of everything and set up a professional network/references.
6.) You go on my health insurance until you are 26; I claim you as a dependent legally on taxes and address lingering juvenile matters directly. Did that for years.
7.) Taught directly by me for 2 hours a week on anatomy, physiology, psychology, psychopharmacology, healthcare, logic, philosophy, writing, finance, operations, etc. and put forth a good faith effort/ do reasonable assignments. Additionally, trade school/military/higher education is to be considered in good faith, though not required.
8.) Attend veterans' / charity events with me and participate, including learning the officer positions/operations. Networking opportunity. Behave well. Learn.
9.) 15% of your paycheck is to be deposited in a
legal trust bank account I control for your express benefit. Pay stubs inspected; interest bearing acct. Terms apply.
10.) Participate in therapy with a psychologist 1/week. Insurance covers. Basic progress reports authorized. I know my brother....
11.) Actively read a book in addition to the texts I will read with you/teach you on.
12.) Be damn grateful for the opportunity. Saving thousands, building a future, and having an actual chance. 8 years (26-18) of good health insurance and learning things most people will never even hear, much less understand. You'll thank me when you have a job, money in an account, possibly even a foreclosure house to fix up, several good references and a credit score with no criminal record, no divorce/child support and an actual shot at life. You gotta shut up and listen and build it up first though.
Not final, obviously. Probably others. Goal being turning his life around. His father's footsteps lead to prison; if he follows them, then he'll end up there.
Follow him; follow me, or good luck making your own path.
Probably his only real chance; otherwise he's screwed. Far more than anyone gave me. Large part of me doesn't even want the hassle/never asked for this.
One of his younger brothers could possibly do well in the Navy and there is an ROTC program if he wants/the possibility of an academy reference.
Sister worries me. Other issues abound. There's probably not a lot I can do about the rest of his siblings at the moment, but it might be an offer if he's smart enough to take it and not mess it up. I wish like hell somebody did that for me; but I basically got the opposite. Not sure if he'll realize doing it and sticking to it is the best thing for him.
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