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[scriver]

Sometimes progress is like one of those loading bars that spend 90% of their time on that one percentage

[Vector]

I wanted to say that I spent a couple of days not posting in order to see what the forum activity is like. Now I understand why you said what you did -- and thank you, I agree. This isn't quite the same place it used to be anymore, which is ok, just takes some adjusting to.


@lmic -- CPTSD isn't in the DSMV, which is probably a big part of your problem, because the PTSD DX looks for life-threatening circumstances (and is generally not a responsive DX for ongoing psychological abuse). In the meantime there are a lot of good books on the topic which might be able to help you feel better. You can PM me for titles.

Trauma = harm + alienation + helplessness. Change any one of the elements in the eqn and your weather system will get a lot less stormy.

[Eschar]

This isn't quite the same place it used to be anymore, which is ok,

Could you clarify?

[Rose]

This isn't quite the same place it used to be anymore, which is ok,

Could you clarify?

Well, a lot of people that were regulars before aren't here anymore.

[Reelya]

This isn't quite the same place it used to be anymore, which is ok,

Could you clarify?

Well, a lot of people that were regulars before aren't here anymore.

There are probably also more mega-threads over time vs the amount of new individual topics this place used to get, you can notice that by looking at the GD section and noting how many 100+ page threads are on the first page, whereas there used to be more individual topics popping up I believe. but I think that's less of an issue than changes in the userbase. But I've definitely heard from people who've looked at the stats that the number of new threads per month declined a lot over the years.

[Vector]

Hmm, well, a lot of things are different. I'm enjoying seeing some familiar faces, but it feels "windy" in here if you know what I mean. A lot of people who I cared about have left. I think when I was younger I was kind of upset about the loss in status, but now I miss seeing everything that my friends once made; I miss their irritating posting styles. And the mathematics thread hasn't had a post in two years! What happened?!

It felt to me like there used to be more young people and more people coming down from the upper boards making jokes about magma and being a nuisance, which was just the right amount of chaos. I miss seeing all the threads where people complained about their high school and college romance problems. There used to just be more: more posters, more forum games, more energy, more playfulness. People wanted to jump on a joke or an idea to participate before it was gone and a thread would move, I dunno, 20 pages while you were off living your life. We would have heated arguments where people from totally different academic and class backgrounds, of different ages, would engage with each other as equals. There were a lot more new threads where people would just go ahead and ask something that they wanted to know about or find some friends to try a new thing with, and then, bang, everyone was cooking or sending postcards or talking about starting a commune It was so much fun!

The reason why I'm back for now is for the same reasons that I liked being here in the first place, though: the community is good (read: really nerdy), people are creative, people actually engage with each other here, it feels safe enough.

[LordBaal]

Fuck, my brother in law grandma just died. Sunday she had a heart arritmia and fainted, she fell and broke her hip and finally died of internal hemorrage because we could not find blood donors for her. It really sucks balls.

[scriver]

Stocking soda really is like playing tetris. I am the man who arranged the blocks.

[Naturegirl1999]

Stocking soda really is like playing tetris. I am the man who arranged the blocks.

[scriver]

Indeed Naturegirl, indeed

[Naturegirl1999]

Indeed Naturegirl, indeed

I don’t remember if someone posted it here and that’s how I found it, or if Youtube recommended it and I posted it here, either way, it’s what I thought of when I saw your post

[Egan_BW]

I've been here five years and lurked for longer, and I'm can't say I've noticed anything in particular change around here. I suspect it's just that some people got old and crotchety while I just matured from a stupid kid into a stupid young adult~

[scriver]

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[TamerVirus]

Peak activity was back in '14 and it was thought that continued updates to DF drive traffic to the forum. So far it seems that more people are going inactive/leaving/running afoul of the banhammer than coming in. Personally I think old post-by-post forums like this one have fallen by the wayside as more people tend to prefer Discord, reddit, and the like. Maybe DF Steam will stop the slow stagnation but who knows. It's a bit more intimate, comfy  and easy-going nowadays

[Imic]

I’m completely miserable. But sometimes I’m not. I’ll laugh at everything, I’ll talk too much, I’ll go too dark in subject matter, and then it all comes back. I’m quote fond of and quite skilled at social interactions with others, even if only currently via Discord, but I hate being the centre of attention. Every mistake I make is amplified in my mind if it involves any other human being to watch or be affected by it (including on this forum), I basically have nothing keeping me going and I’m unlikely to acquire something anytime soon. I keep on not drawing, D&D looks to be not happening for the forseeable future, playing games or looking at things online only makes me feel like I’m wasting the precious hours of my life, and I get that the antidepressants will kick in in a few weeks, but for now I just hate it all.