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[kaijyuu]

I've been extremely cautious, so worry not. I've known her for 8.5 years, and the engagement will be long-ish, and I've asked all the questions I can think of (especially the uncomfortable ones).

[Descan]

Invite meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

[Bauglir]

Cheese in the dough yields promising results. Next time I'll simplify the recipe a bit and alter the flour mix. Soon...

[SalmonGod]

I've been extremely cautious, so worry not. I've known her for 8.5 years, and the engagement will be long-ish, and I've asked all the questions I can think of (especially the uncomfortable ones).

Oh that's awesome, then.  From the posts on the forum, this all seemed very sudden.

[Frumple]

I've been extremely cautious, so worry not. I've known her for 8.5 years, and the engagement will be long-ish, and I've asked all the questions I can think of (especially the uncomfortable ones).

My two primary notes are A) Congrats! Officially recognized and publicly announced monogamy (Well, presumably...) can be a large step in our culture. Just remember Wittgenstein's ladder

... and B) Maybe talk to a lawyer at some point before the actual marriage, to find out precisely what the legal consequences are, if you haven't already.

It's annoying that there's so much fiscal/legal entanglement involved with the ceremony if you want it acknowledged officially, but it is what it is and going in with eyes wide open is... probably important. I guess. I've known a few people that didn't that ended up bit in the nether regions by it (and not in any particularly pleasing ways).

Cheese in the dough yields promising results. Next time I'll simplify the recipe a bit and alter the flour mix. Soon...

Your mention of cheesy bread dough has intrigued me, for cheese improves all things. What are you attempting?

[kaijyuu]

I've been extremely cautious, so worry not. I've known her for 8.5 years, and the engagement will be long-ish, and I've asked all the questions I can think of (especially the uncomfortable ones).

Oh that's awesome, then.  From the posts on the forum, this all seemed very sudden.

The relationship portion could be considered sudden. But when you go from essentially "best friend" to "romantic partner," I feel we have an excuse

No one knows me better than her, and I know her extremely well. All my remaining worries are related to potential issues living together, and these last few days have systematically obliterated those. Not to mention I'd be willing to give my all to solve any problems that may arise, and she's made it quite clear she'd want to work through any troubles as well.

[misko27]

I've been extremely cautious, so worry not. I've known her for 8.5 years, and the engagement will be long-ish, and I've asked all the questions I can think of (especially the uncomfortable ones).

Oh that's awesome, then.  From the posts on the forum, this all seemed very sudden.

The relationship portion could be considered sudden. But when you go from essentially "best friend" to "romantic partner," I feel we have an excuse

No one knows me better than her, and I know her extremely well. All my remaining worries are related to potential issues living together, and these last few days have systematically obliterated those. Not to mention I'd be willing to give my all to solve any problems that may arise, and she's made it quite clear she'd want to work through any troubles as well.

It's just that, you're new to the relationship part, which, and I know you don't think it is, but it IS a very significant change from friend. There are different expectations. Things could happen. This is new.
 
Also, I'm going to note to Doctus the chance of Divorce doubles if you have doubts before marriage, any doubts, even semmingly insignificant ones, and you do not voice them. Seriously, doubles. Statistics. 100% more likely you'll divorce. That goes for kaiyjuu too. If you have doubts, for the love of god talk about them, NOW. Or even with a marriage counseler, seriously. Anyone.

Captain Cynic to the Rescue! (You know what they say about Cynics? Somone who sees the world as it is, not as it ought to be. Actually, that's going in my sig. The devil's Dictionary, I love that.)

[kaijyuu]

Aye misko, very much agree with you. Hence why I've emphasized openness and honestly regarding any sort of negative feelings whatsoever since day 1.


(PS: I don't feel ya'll are raining on my parade or anything, so don't feel bad about bringing up concerns)

[misko27]

While we are mentioning the devil's dictionary:
MARRIAGE, n. The state or condition of a community consisting of a master, a mistress and two slaves, making in all, two.

[Flying Dice]

Har har, Misko. 

But yeah, congratulations, Kai. I wish you both the best.

[Bauglir]

Cheese in the dough yields promising results. Next time I'll simplify the recipe a bit and alter the flour mix. Soon...

Your mention of cheesy bread dough has intrigued me, for cheese improves all things. What are you attempting?

I melted cheese, and then kneaded it into the dough before it could cool. It's resulted in a much chewier, heavier bread, which is a plus for me. Still needs tweaking before any kind of recipe can get posted.

[MaximumZero]

Dude. Shredded cheese is much easier to work with, and gives greater consistency.

[Bauglir]

Hm... what do you mean by that? My goal here was to make the cheese a part of the dough, rather than to suspend pockets of cheese in the dough, if that's what you're getting at. Working with non-wheat flours, so it's partially an attempt at gluten substitution.

[MaximumZero]

I seem to have mistaken your intentions, and give you a raised eyebrow, instead.

FakeEdit: In other news, I don't have to work today. This is the first Sunday I've had off since the football season started. Girlfriend wants me to teach her about football. AWW YEAH!

[Remalle]

NHL's back!  Kind of!