You compose a letter to the Khan of Huljan, proposing help against the Ramo in return for some explanation on his collaboration with elves. You send a note to King Beren about negotiating with Huljan, but you don't stop him.
882 AD, Autumn
You receive a report that the Kiwi Army (comprised mostly of draftees and mercenaries) have entered the southeastern Ramo Khanate and begun systematic reconquest of settlements and burning of nomad camps.
882 AD, Midsummer
A messenger from Huljan has arrived, no doubt in response to your letter!
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But you instead sit in your chambers, reminiscing of the good times with your husband(s). People knock on the door but you cuss them off, telling them to have the Advisor take care of it, he has decades of experience with Houlandine politics by now.
Next day after you finish your crying fit, you learn that Huljani envoy spoke on behalf of his Khan, agreeing to send trusted general to your court who shall tell you things about the elves.
882 AD, Late Summer
The Advisor, the Marshal and the Archpriest, and plethora of your other courtiers, are worried about your wellbeing. You wave them off but decide to show them that you're mentally fit and of good health. And you will do that by...
A) Spending more time with your children, personally teaching them the tricks and basics of Houlandine diplomacy and badassery.
B) Show up more on official banquets and feasts, drinking and laughing honestly along with your loyal courtiers.
C) Simply attending the audiences instead of scurrying away everytime a tear slips onto your brow.