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[Dunamisdeos]

I'm a generally charismatic fellow around here on Bay12, and I am a generally charsmatic dude IRL too.

I still super overthink things to the point where I'm sure everyone secretly is mad and/or is avoiding me. Then I realize this is silly.

[dragdeler]

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[Rolan7]

People like a good listener.  My trick for chatting with strangers is to break the ice with vacuous observations, but then use their responses to get them talking about whatever.  I like listening to people talk about whatever, and they usually enjoy talking about their favorite whatever.

And sometimes you find common ground, and then you exchange whatever, and there's a connection.  Then they aren't a stranger anymore.

Edit:  And obviously a lot of people are noncommittal, not interested.  That's absolutely fine, there are a *lot of people*, move on.

[dragdeler]

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[Hanslanda]

I'm a generally charismatic fellow around here on Bay12, and I am a generally charsmatic dude IRL too.

I still super overthink things to the point where I'm sure everyone secretly is mad and/or is avoiding me. Then I realize this is silly.

This. God this so much. I've no idea how many beautiful women I've missed my chances with because I got over-thought and verbally retreated. Go for gold my friends!

And sometimes you find common ground, and then you exchange whatever, and there's a connection.  Then they aren't a stranger anymore.

Based on the sample this forum is delivering, I think it's safe to say that people might actually enjoy some sincerity. And sofar as my experiences have gone, if you don't happen to stumble upon a total sociopath, that kind of natural selection get's you in contact with people who tend to be at the same wavelength.

People do like sincerity. Or they get offended but fuck those people. You can fake it and be polite forever or you can be you and dismiss the people that don't like you. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

[Dunamisdeos]

I mean I did go through a period where I was basically anti-social, and I have since grown past that to the point where I can mentally ignore that impulse to start over-analyzing it in that way.

Takes time but honestly looking back it felt like a natural learning process.

[dragdeler]

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[JoshuaFH]

Feeling kinda ashamed of myself. I'd spent all morning dragging my heels on going to the gym, an activity that I've been neglecting recently and I'm both feeling and getting fat and lazy. I finally go there, and I'm just crushed by anxiety, wrapped up in pointless hateful thoughts that get me worked up over nothing, and I get panicked when I look at the equipment and just feel so aimless and uncertain of what to do. I left without doing anything.

My thoughts exiting the gym were something like "I wonder if I should just cancel my gym membership." "I wonder if I should just quit my job" "I don't know what to do..."

I'm thinking that if I'm ever going to ever make any progress on my goals, I have to quit my job, it's keeping me unhealthy, fatigued, and unstable. I just can't get the necessary footing to make actual progress without falling flat on my face at the slightest setback, and I'm getting set back a lot, with the scale confirming that I've basically backslid on all my work. Just fuck it all.

Life is just a chore it seems.

[Yoink]

Had a sudden headache and now I'm shittin' like a garden hose with someone's finger over the end of it. I woulda rather just stayed constipated...

[Kagus]

I woulda rather just stayed constipated...

That's what the headache's from. You've reached critical overshituration.

[CABL]

Couldn't sleep today well; woke up in 7:30 AM instead of my usual ~ 10/11 AM. Also, I coughed like crazy from the dust flying in my nostrils. The shit's relatively harmless, but fucking annoying.

[Hanslanda]

I'm still depressed. Just trying to push the, "You piece of shit, just eat your gun and do everyone a favor." Stuff out of my head, but it's not always easy.

[Kagus]

I'm still depressed. Just trying to push the, "You piece of shit, just eat your gun and do everyone a favor." Stuff out of my head, but it's not always easy.

I've got an idea for a hobby you could try! You should take up baking! Make some chocolate guns, and eat one of those instead.

[hops]

Ask your wife to make finger guns and suck on them real sexy like

[KittyTac]

Gun-shaped pastries. Why not?