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[Vector]

If you're being abused that's because your abuser is having a hard time and you've gotta empathize and make nice?

No.

[Darkmere]

I think you misunderstand

No dude, you just said abuse is the victim's fault. It's too late to backpedal now.

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*ahem* back to the real point of this thread...

Zehive, what do you want? Answer in any terms and scope you like.

[geronimo]

If you're being abused that's because your abuser is having a hard time and you've gotta empathize and make nice?

No.

I said empathize, I didn't say make nice.

Of course your going to have to knock the heads of some people, and of course your not going to be happy after feeling so much pain, what I realised is that you have'nt understood a single thing I have said, what I have been saying is this:

Do not allow your mental health to be put at the whim of another's emotional immaturity, instead use the pain as a reminder not to and move on.

As simple as I can put it, but you don't seem to understand, I don't mean for him to continue the way he was before kissing that girls bum, but to carry a future lesson in his mind, a reminder to not fall prey to such a thing. If and when he does, he will easily be able to remain friends with her, running away is not nearly the answer, that just means you've lost.

If he's able to do this, I am also sure he'll fix the girl too

[geronimo]

I think you misunderstand

No dude, you just said abuse is the victim's fault. It's too late to backpedal now.

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*ahem* back to the real point of this thread...

Zehive, what do you want? Answer in any terms and scope you like.

(My mistake and apology)
No I said specifically that (mental and emotional) abuse was a TWO WAY thing. Asking zehive a question I have already brought up doesn't make it any better.

[Vector]

No I said specifically that abuse was a TWO WAY thing.

If he's able to do this, I am also sure he'll fix the girl too

. . . STFU and GTFO.

[geronimo]

No I said specifically that abuse was a TWO WAY thing.

If he's able to do this, I am also sure he'll fix the girl too

. . . STFU and GTFO.

Why don't you understand what I am saying, being rude and saying something as ignorant as that does not help at all, you haven't said one point that would make me think away from what I thought. Your philosophy is simply too crude for me to understand, please explain.

Don't be

[Scelly9]

No I said specifically that abuse was a TWO WAY thing.

If he's able to do this, I am also sure he'll fix the girl too

. . . STFU and GTFO.

Why don't you understand what I am saying, being rude and saying something as ignorant as that does not help at all, you haven't said one point that would make me think away from what I thought. Your philosophy is simply too crude for me to understand, please explain.

Don't be

Abuse is NOT a two way thing. You just implied that everyone who has ever been abused is responsible for it. That's bullshit. And honestly her reaction was pretty damn good.

[geronimo]

No I said specifically that abuse was a TWO WAY thing.

If he's able to do this, I am also sure he'll fix the girl too

. . . STFU and GTFO.

Why don't you understand what I am saying, being rude and saying something as ignorant as that does not help at all, you haven't said one point that would make me think away from what I thought. Your philosophy is simply too crude for me to understand, please explain.

Don't be

Abuse is NOT a two way thing. You just implied that everyone who has ever been abused is responsible for it. That's bullshit. And honestly her reaction was pretty damn good.

I didn't say "abuse" totally was a two-way thing, I said emotional and physical, they are both preventable.

Also I would like to edit this thread to say yes you may disagree whole-heartedly with what I'm saying, just tell me why, I'm trying to understand you also, in a respectable way, but I can't see why I am not right. Cursing a ton is just more to read to me.

[Scelly9]

I didn't say "abuse" totally was a two-way thing, I said emotional and physical, they are both preventable.

No I said specifically that abuse was a TWO WAY thing.

What the hell.

[geronimo]

I didn't say "abuse" totally was a two-way thing, I said emotional and physical, they are both preventable.

No I said specifically that abuse was a TWO WAY thing.

What the hell.

Gah, that was a misstype, you are overreacting. I said otherwise on the previous page

[Vector]

I did empathize with my abusers.

That would be why I stayed.

[Scelly9]

I didn't say "abuse" totally was a two-way thing, I said emotional and physical, they are both preventable.

What you do not realise is both emotional and mental abuse is a two-way thing, as I have pointed out, the way to deal with it is to realise what the other person is going through.

So, what type of abuse is not a two way thing then? I think physical and emotional just about covers it.

[geronimo]

I did empathize with my abusers.

That would be why I stayed.

Your way of handling a situation and my way are probably so different, so can you expound a bit. Also those two sentences don't make much sense to me...

[geronimo]

I didn't say "abuse" totally was a two-way thing, I said emotional and physical, they are both preventable.

What you do not realise is both emotional and mental abuse is a two-way thing, as I have pointed out, the way to deal with it is to realise what the other person is going through.

So, what type of abuse is not a two way thing then? I think physical and emotional just about covers it.

What?

[Scelly9]

You say both physical and emotional abuse are two way things. Then you say that Abuse is not a two way thing. So what constitutes Abuse that is not a two way thing, that is not physical or emotional?