Some of us have first hand social experience as both men and women. Have you taken that into consideration?
The statement was more of a "Look, saying men can't know because they aren't women" is the same as saying "Well women can't know because they aren't men". It is just a vicious argument that doesn't go anywhere except to try to shut people out of the conversation or invalidate their opinions due to an arbitrary set of circumstances they have no control over.
The technicalities don't matter, because I wasn't being serious I was drawing parallels.
"Ohh your a cripple, clearly you can't know anything about football. so your opinion that they should provide better financial aid for the players is invalid. Your clearly just Cripsplaining thing."
"Ohh your poor, clearly you can't know anything about business. So your opinion on how taxation should work is invalid. Your clearly just poorsplaining things"
"Ohh your just a man, everything you said is clearly just sexist drivel because you can't see things from a woman's perspective. Your just mansplaining things"
Are you saying that you see yourself as observing the characters, rather than the character being an avatar, so you don't feel the need to identify with them? If so, I think that a lot of other people might share that same view. It might also explain the "I would rather stare at a woman's butt" thing.
For me it depends on the protagonist (there are a few I basically put myself into the game as a character) but usually I default to simply observing the character. I am not "In the game".