I was proposing that the ideas of Tolkien (being the father of modern fantasy) regarding female dwarves are important to take into consideration (in other words, that they shouldn't arbitrarily be dismissed as irrelevent),
Except they ARE irrelevant. That's what I've been saying in as many ways as I know how. I'll just quote this again, because it's far more direct than I was trying to be:
This argument is pointless.
By default, dwarf ladies have no beards. This is how Toady envisions them. DF is his creation, so his is the only opinion that really counts. This is what the "DF cannon" is.
But, he also made it moddable so folks who want bearded ladies can have them, because he wants the game to be customizable.
What someone else wrote about dwarves in a completely different setting is irrelevant to Dwarf Fortress. For every instance of bearded dwarf ladies in other fiction, an instance of non-bearded dwarf ladies can equally be pointed out. There is no "right" here. There is only what each individual author decided about his or her own personal version of a fictional creature.
Some people just like arguing.
This is not a Tolkien simulator. Period. That's all there is to it. There is no need to follow any particular aspect of Tolkien in making any fantasy setting.
and you chose to "rephrase" this into something different:
In other words,we should listen to Tolkien on the parts you want us to listen to, but we shouldn't listen to Tolkien on the parts you don't want us to listen to...
OK, now in context, what I was saying was: We do not need to follow Tolkien's example in Dwarves because we do not follow Tolkien's example in other creatures like elves... To say that we must follow Tolkien's example for Dwarves when we rewrite other creatues, like Elves (to specifically mock the elves of Tolkien, no less), freely shows total inconsistancy. If you want to keep Tolkienian dwarves because you like Tolkienian Dwarves, but not Tolkienian elves because you don't like Tolkienian elves, then you are undermining your own argument with your inconsistancy, and revealing that the only reasoning in your argument is "I want this because I like it".
This is NOT a strawman - a strawman is engineering a fictitious position just to knock it down. (I get the impression the word "strawman" is thrown around so often that the word is losing its meaning...) I am talking about the positions that you, yourself, have stated.
... And now it's "I know you are, but what am I?"
You know, even if I am someone who just loves to argue, there is a limit to what sort of arguments I'll put up with.
If the "I know you are, but what am I" style of retort is beyond that limit, then that's quite the treasure you have there in that Horadric double-standard! What you just quoted was a response to you doing just that.
See, look: Actually, that's the entirity of YOUR argument.
Just what are you trying to pull, here?
This is, again, the exact same argument I've been making in many different ways, hoping that you will eventually see the point I'm trying to make: You have never gone beyond "I like it because that's what Tolkien did, and I liked Tolkien", which is apparent when you read the conversation, instead of trying to strip something out of context, and reducing what others say into the shallowest of concepts, without reading the meaning of their actions.
It's a rough, shallow comparison, then. So what? I didn't intend it as some kind of complexly symbolic parallel. Nitpick it all you want, if that floats your boat.
Actually, this is a matter of critical thinking skills, the ability to discern differences between two unlike things, and judge the similarities... The ability to make connections between statements of facts, and their implications. Or, more directly, the ability to grasp the relevance of a metaphor when you see one.
Tolkienian elves and DF elves are almost nothing alike: DF elves are, in fact, a cruel mockery of Tolkienian elves. Tolkienian elves are an ideal - an expression of one author's idea of a perfect society, free from the evils of industry or progress or social mobility. DF elves are "filthy hippies", a collection of every negative trait that can be levelled against those who oppose industrial progress.
Even if you cannot grasp this concept in its entirity, you, yourself, used the tennants of this concept when you were mocking beardless women as "elf-like creatures" in an explicitly negative way. See:
Hey, you're the one trying to deprecate female Dwarves into beardless elf-like creatures!