I'm sure we al have noticed the growing promiscuity of teenagers
What you've noticed is the growing publicity and relative puritanism of the media - not an actual increase in sexual interest on the part of teenagers.
Historically, we're (at least here in the US) very prudish right now.
Not all that long ago you would have been married and popping out children before 18... But now we consider 18 to be the threshold of adulthood, and folks popping out children before then is frowned upon. Hell, we tell most people to wait until after college to get married.
Pornography used to be considered fairly mainstream - remember "Deep Throat"?
We are simultaneously portraying a hyper-sexualized image of anything female, and acting as if sex is the most horrible thing ever. We've got tiny little children wearing mini-skirts, and we're freaking out because teenagers are acting like teenagers have always acted.
I'm just wondering, why? Why is sex something that is sought out so much after by any means?
Because it feels good.
Not just the physical sensations of orgasm... But being that close/intimate to someone. Feeling the warmth of their body next to you, feeling their skin against you. Feeling wanted, accepted, desired.
It's nice.
It seems like average teen just wants to have sex as soon as possible and doesn't matter who it's with.
That's actually no more or less true of modern teenagers than it has been of any human from any point in history.
Yes, teenagers are full of raging hormones. They're horny. They want to have sex. But so does just about everyone else. And this isn't a new thing.
Some folks have been jumping anything with the appropriate genitalia since the dawn of time. Other folks are more selective.
The difference is that these days we hear about it constantly thanks to our media industry.
I've never really been one for the whole sex thing. It's not that I'm gay, don't care or asexual even, I just want to wait for someone I love before I have sex.
That isn't nearly as atypical as the popular media would lead one to believe.
After reading a few studies and surveys showing that the average person loses their virginity between 15 -17, I can't help wonder if I'm really the only one who wants to wait or if I'm just missing out on it by being so uptight
You kind of have to consider the phrasing of the questions... And the age-group of the respondents... Whether they're actually being honest or trying to sound cool... What they considered "sex" or "losing their virginity"...
Now I wil admit that I had sex once in my life. It ended horribly and I deeply regret because I was in love with the girl and it turned out, she didn't even remotely fel the same about me
You need to differentiate more between
sex and
relationships. While they frequently go together, and they're a lot of fun to have at the same time, they are two separate things.
Having a relationship does not necessarily lead to sex. Nor does having sex necessarily mean you've got a relationship.
Im wondering if Im the only one who feels it would be best to wait
No, you aren't. Although I wold suggest that you try to figure out what you're waiting for.
Some folks get this idea that they ought to save themselves for marriage... But marriage is just a public ceremony - not necessarily some kind of magical transformation into a committed relationship. I take my marriage very seriously, but lots of folks don't.
I don't think I'd suggest you wait for marriage (although, if that's your thing, go right ahead). Although I also wouldn't suggest jumping anything with the appropriate genitalia (sex is fun, intimate, important - don't waste that). Wait for the right person. Someone you're close to. Someone you can enjoy yourself with. Not necessarily the love of your life... But someone who you genuinely want to share something as important as sex with.
Just until you're actually in love. Not the bulshit that teenagers feel when they like someone, but actual love.
If you wait until you're genuinely in love, you'll probably be waiting a
very long time. Love isn't what most folks think it is. What most folks think of as love is actually infatuation.
Love doesn't actually kick in until you've known the person for a good couple of years.
Genuinely speaking, most human beings have sex long before they're actually in love. Hell, most folks these days get married before they're actually in love... (hence the high divorce rate, because they don't actually love the person they're married to)
Am I just being uptight wen it comes to the subject or am I in the right for thinking this?
No. To both your questions.
You aren't just being uptight... But there isn't a right way either. Different strokes for different folks. And it'd be a very boring world if we were all the same.