Six feet under the ground not far enough? I jest.
He sounds like a classic bully though, doing things to get a rise out of people knowing the “authority” won’t do anything about it.
Not sure what your responses are, but brushing it off might be wise, but could also just escalate things if he is a true asshat.
I'd never help him get six feet under. But if that's where he ended up, I'd honestly have trouble mourning. Heartless, I know, but the truth.
And 'classic bully' sums him up fairly well. He also lacks empathy in most things. I'd say all, but he was genuinely upset when the dog died. And I reckon he'd be upset if my dad died, though that doesn't stop him stealing from him.
There was one bright moment when the stars seemed to align. He got a job in Scotland, even went and worked there for a bit. He's 28, so that should be no problem. Apparently it was. He's entirely, parasitically dependent upon my parents and my aunt. He hated being away from people who would do his clothes, cook his meals and give him free accommodation. I don't think he CAN cook or clean anyway. Not to mention there were no easy pickings for theft (which is interestingly largely confined to family. I think he's too cowardly to do it where there are real consequences). Anyway, he came back like a bad penny. Except even a bad penny has some monetary worth.
Seriously now, apply for that civil service job and get out of there
I've applied - and got funding - for a doctoral course. So I'll be in Belfast a lot after October. This has, in the past, helped a lot for obvious reasons. It's not a long-term solution, however. It's just me escaping the problem - that my family and my home are being ruined, even in my absence. It's a quandary.
If you feel like leaving is the best then do so, still i would recomend an honest and open discusion to your father about all this, some years down the road you get to say I fucking told you so, and you wont have the regret of not having trying to warn him about it.
As a father I could see how being in denial of having an asshole of a son, but down the road I would apreciate somebody warning me about it.
I appreciate the perspective. But it's been said, implied, and shown many times in the past. There's honestly no use.
If someone is a dick to people around them, you don't have to be glad to be near them. That's just the natural result of hanging out with a jerk.
I'd appreciate it if you spoke to my dad.
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