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[hector13]

Spehss, next time you bump into her, ask her if she'd like to get some coffee. Proceed with the knowledge that the only thing you can lose is hope*, and you don't seem to have too much of that right now anyway. At some point during the coffee, if she agrees, ask her if she'd like to get together for something more clearly datelike.

*Game theory, y'see. If she's not interested, it doesn't matter what you do. Failure if you do ask leads to the same outcome as never having asked at all, only with fewer regrets because at least you don't have any "what-if"s.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPqBV6LhuW8

[RedKing]

Spehss, are you past me that time-traveled forward?
Regardless, I'm going to give you the verbal kick-in-the-ass that past me should have gotten.

1. Stop projecting forward into horrible "what-if" scenarios. You aren't Muad'dib, you don't see the future. You can, however, trap yourself in potential futures and use it to rationalize not doing anything because you're scared. Some people spend their whole lives doing that.

2. Be confident. Be honest. You're bound to run into her again in the near-future, ask her if she wants to grab some lunch/dinner and then just talk to her. Ask her about herself, where she's from, etc. Let the conversation open up naturally.

3. After doing this a couple of times, ask her out to see a movie. Or maybe to go look at some exhibit at your school's art gallery, since you're both into drawing.

4. Don't worry about the roommate. Yes, some guys are just born womanizing dicks (MSH's Scumbag Steve roommate comes to mind) but a lot of guys kind of lose their freakin' minds when they first to college and have cute girls in proximity pretty much around the clock. Though if you and Likes-To-Draw-Girl hit it off and become an item, don't hesitate to draw a line in the sand. It's not chauvinistic or sexist (imho) to "stake a claim", especially in a competitive environment like a college dorm.

5. Trust me, any perceived potential humiliation you're worried about? It's small potatoes compared to the humiliations you'll have later in life. Not trying to be a downer, but life just does that shit to people. And you'll still survive.

[miauw62]

You can do it, Spessh_

[MetalSlimeHunt]

(MSH's Scumbag Steve roommate comes to mind)

Oh, nostalgia.

[RedKing]

(MSH's Scumbag Steve roommate comes to mind)

Oh, nostalgia.

Whatever happened to that dude anyways?

[MetalSlimeHunt]

No, he simply failed to maintain the minimum GPA requirement, and as such was not permitted to return for a year, as well as being kicked out of his fraternity (I happened to run into another member of the frat who knew him, he was rather infamous with them). It's been over a year now, but I doubt he's going to re-apply.

Honestly, he's better off pursuing a musical career anyway, he was legitimately good at it (8+ years experience at 18, could perfectly reproduce any heard guitar track within a minute), despite all my complaining.

[RedKing]

No, he simply failed to maintain the minimum GPA requirement, and as such was not permitted to return for a year, as well as being kicked out of his fraternity (I happened to run into another member of the frat who knew him, he was rather infamous with them). It's been over a year now, but I doubt he's going to re-apply.

Honestly, he's better off pursuing a musical career anyway, he was legitimately good at it (8+ years experience at 18, could perfectly reproduce any heard guitar track within a minute), despite all my complaining.

Ahh, a future Fred Durst.

[JoshuaFH]

I have another appt with my therapist today. I still just feel like shit though. I saw myself in a clear mirror today, and was surprised by it. I suddenly had this overwhelming feeling that I'm just continually transforming, more and more, into someone I hate and disgust, and I have no idea how to stop it.

I wish I didn't exist, I wish I was never born, just so I could have the luxury of never having to worry about actually living my life. It all just seems like too much, a grandiose dream that can never be aspired to, it's just so scary and painful, I don't know what to do.

[Bauglir]

Your brain is lying to you. That is anxiety talking. Life is no more grand than you want it to be (and often less), you're not transforming as much as you think, and there's no external standard for you to fail to live up to. You're doing fine at life, and if it helps you feel better, the anxiety is a sort of Challenge Mode - you may feel like you can't do things others consider easy, and that may make you doubt your worth, but the fact is that those things are harder for you than the people you're comparing yourself to, and whatever progress you do make says a lot more in favor of your courage and strength than you think. Because it represents a much greater ability to invest effort than if your goals were trivially achieved.

Doesn't make it any easier. But at least you can take pride in the steps you do take - like going to the gym, for instance.

[miauw62]

Bluh, I'm confused.

[scrdest]

Doesn't make it any easier. But at least you can take pride in the steps you do take - like going to the gym, for instance.

Unless you hurt yourself twice in the first two visits like this idiot I know who sometimes posts on this forums and has a username similar to scriver's.

[LordSlowpoke]

Doesn't make it any easier. But at least you can take pride in the steps you do take - like going to the gym, for instance.

Unless you hurt yourself twice in the first two visits like this idiot I know who sometimes posts on this forums and has a username similar to scriver's.

scribble is a pillar of the community do not call them an idiot thanks

[scrdest]

Doesn't make it any easier. But at least you can take pride in the steps you do take - like going to the gym, for instance.

Unless you hurt yourself twice in the first two visits like this idiot I know who sometimes posts on this forums and has a username similar to scriver's.

scribble is a pillar of the community do not call them an idiot thanks

I'm lazy, is that an actual registered person here?

[Parsely]

Sibling rivalry is a proud American tradition.

We're not all Americans. I'm Canadian.

This irks me in a way I can't rightly explain. But I want to say something along the lines of: duh.

-snip-

Uh, ask her out.

[scrdest]

Sibling rivalry is a proud American tradition.

We're not all Americans. I'm Canadian.

This irks me in a way I can't rightly explain. But I want to say something along the lines of: duh.

Assuming all USA traditions are universal throughout North America is a proud American tradition