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[WealthyRadish]

That's true, if he's a really nice guy, it'll be voluntary leg breaking.

[Descan]

Personally I think the archetype of gatekeeper is creepy, and a parent should act more as a guide.

As in, direct them to knowledge, keep an open dialogue about the subject, and be a place they can return to should their heart be broken.

[Yoink]

Still kind of weird!

Not really. It's kind of an important part of parenting. Not quite as important as performing DIY psychological experiments on them, but close.

[Execute/Dumbo.exe]

Well, your daughter if she did ever get a girl/boy friend then she wouldn't tell you about it at all if you just break their legs, so it's a net decrease in parenting level.

[Frumple]

Personally I think the archetype of gatekeeper is creepy, and a parent should act more as a guide.

As in, direct them to knowledge, keep an open dialogue about the subject, and be a place they can return to should their heart be broken.

Well sure. I don't see how that precludes breaking one or two little limbs, though. Gotta' keep up appearances and whatnot. Make sure the grand kids have a few good stories of when grandparent X twisted parent Y into a pretzel. Or when parent Y managed to escape by jumping out the second story window, stuff like that.

[Execute/Dumbo.exe]

Well sure. I don't see how that precludes breaking one or two little limbs, though. Gotta' keep up appearances and whatnot. Make sure the grand kids have a few good stories of when grandparent X twisted parent Y into a pretzel. Or when parent Y managed to escape by jumping out the second story window, stuff like that.

Hang on, too busy laughing, and sigged.

[RedKing]

As the resident liberal scumbag, I feel it is my duty to say "It's not your place to tell your daughter who she can and can't sleep with, it is your duty to provide your daughter (or son) with the information needed to be safe, and it is hoped that you have raised your daughter to know who's a good person and who would just be using her."

Honestly it can feel a little scummy, to me, for a dad to act as some sort of gate-keeper of his daughters vagina :V

Protecting her is one thing, but if the guy doesn't actually hurt her, it's kind of weird.

Fine, take all the fun out of parenting. *pout*

I'm not trying to be the gate-keeper, I'm trying to remind him that "If you turn out to be a Scumbag Steve to my daughter, your ass is forfeit."
If he's a Good Guy Greg, the hey...go wild. (Well okay, not exactly, but you know what I mean.)

[timferius]

I'm going to have to resonate with Descan on this one...
It's not your place to decide if anyones worthy, that's for your kid to decide. Your job is to give them all the tools to make a good decision. If you start looming, they'll just start dating in secret, and you'll have no idea what's going on.
You must guide them, teach them, build their trust.

AND THEN DESTROY THEM, MWAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHA

[Baffler]

Heh, that's all very easy for people who don't have kids to say.

[Loud Whispers]

It's not your place to decide if anyones worthy, that's for your kid to decide.

If they're still considered a kid hell no it's not just up for them to decide.

Your job is to give them all the tools to make a good decision. If you start looming, they'll just start dating in secret, and you'll have no idea what's going on.

That's called bad parenting.

You must guide them, teach them, build their trust.

That's to be expected and not mutually exclusive with teaching them who's a damn bad person to be dating.

[timferius]

It's not your place to decide if anyones worthy, that's for your kid to decide.

If they're still considered a kid hell no it's not just up for them to decide.

Well, I say kid, but I'm assuming teenagers here.

Your job is to give them all the tools to make a good decision. If you start looming, they'll just start dating in secret, and you'll have no idea what's going on.

That's called bad parenting.

I'm not sure which part you're saying is bad parenting?

You must guide them, teach them, build their trust.

That's to be expected and not mutually exclusive with teaching them who's a damn bad person to be dating.

But the only thing you'll have to go off of is hearsay and first impressions, they're people too. If they get their heart broken it's a life lesson, we've (mostly) all had it happen to us.

Heh, that's all very easy for people who don't have kids to say.

I have 3 kids (though nowhere near dating age yet), so I would say I have more authority on the subject then someone without kids, but less than someone who's had kids dating.


EDIT NOTE: I actually quoted things to make it more legible

[hops]

I can't really say my parents would know if I do start dating someone, because I still suspect they homophobic scums.

[Graknorke]

I can't really say my parents would know if I do start dating someone, because I still suspect they homophobic scums.

I can echo the sentiment of not telling my parents shit. Well, my mother anyway. Not for the same reasons as Objective or anything, just really overbearing.
Then again, cultural differences to the 'murrican majority on these forums.

[MaximumZero]

My kids are just barely 6 and not yet born. I don't want to think about them dating yet.

[KingofstarrySkies]

My kids are just barely 6 and not yet born. I don't want to think about them dating yet.

Hue.
And noone blames you for it. Just buy a baseball bat now, so you don't have to pay more later.