What I meant was, you obviously want to train wrestling, but it also will begin auto-training on its own quite quickly. So you could give a dwarf armor-user (and no armor) or weapon-user (and no weapon) etc.. and let them train up wrestling naturally. Now that will obviously take a bit longer than if you give them ranks in wrestling to start with, but how much time do you save on the next step, ie training armor which can, from my reading of these threads, be quite difficult to skill up in especially if the dwarves learn defensive skills first. Shield skill improvement can be retarded by equipment denial, but dodging happens no matter what, so you have that issue.
Might be best, if "natural" wrestling is nearly as good as "seeded" wrestling, to give them these other skill ranks and switch over once they are up to speed.
Another factor that plays into this is the difference between sparring and lessons. Dwarves will spar if they are close to the same level, and do lessons if the difference is large. Lessons are more effective IF you have teacher/student ranks to multiply in. Sparring on the other hand trains more skills simultaneously, and from what I understand, is what you need to do to get attribute gains.
So.... you can give dwarves different ranks in harder-to-train skills and if those skills are equipment related, you can turn them off completely. In the mean-time, dwarves will then train spontaneous military skills, including wrestling, striker, fighter, dodger and biter, and as they are all starting at zero (assuming no ranks given here), they will tend to spar and level it all up while gaining attributes. Once they are well rounded in hand-to-hand combat, you then turn on the other skills by allowing progressively more equipment. At this point, if you gave different skills to different dwarves, they will focus on lessons and more rapidly bring the other dwarves up to speed on their individual skill-focus. Doubly so if you spent a few ranks on teacher/student and even organizer. Once they are all starting to level out again with eachother, they begin to spar again and now you have some seriously well-rounded military dwarves.
If you are careful, you could even figure out a way to tier the system so that you start with boot camp spar-training, have some master-level skill teachers that focus a military class on one specific skill through advanced lessons, and the classes would graduate upwards until they come together into a large sparring group, at which point they would be seperated again into weapon-type for final training.
That's what I have been working on at least, looking at Teacher 4 Student 1 Organizer 1 Skill_X 4 as an embark seed for my master teachers.