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[Cptn Kaladin Anrizlokum]

So, there is a Chinese girl at my school, we are in the same Chinese class. And she seems to have a crush on me, and is pretty obvious about it, but we have never actually talked.
How do I nicely tell her I have a girlfriend?

[pisskop]

So, there is a Chinese girl at my school, we are in the same Chinese class. And she seems to have a crush on me, and is pretty obvious about it, but we have never actually talked.
How do I nicely tell her I have a girlfriend?

Don't?  Its not a crime to like somebody, and overextending yourself without a plausible reason is likely to offend or even crush her.  If and when she approaches you you simply need to avoid flirting.

or be a giant tease and be yourself around her.  As long as you an draw a line and be sure she knows where it is.  Im sure she will get the picture and move along.

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There will always be those who will be attracted to charisma.  You cant crush everyone, and you will end up burning far more bridges than necessary if you try.  And if she is too shy she needs to get over that.  If she doesnt . . .

[Darkmere]

Or you could try not being a colossal douche and act like a reasonable human being.

"Hi, I'm sorry if I have the wrong idea, but I get the impression you like me and wanted you to know I'm in a relationship. Sorry if I've done anything to mislead you." Should be more than sufficient.

[pisskop]

Or you could try not being a colossal douche and act like a reasonable human being.

"Hi, I'm sorry if I have the wrong idea, but I get the impression you like me and wanted you to know I'm in a relationship. Sorry if I've done anything to mislead you." Should be more than sufficient.

You would walk up to a girl you havent talked to before, and start telling her how you already have a girlfriend?  Who's the egocentric douche here?

[Darkmere]

Who's the egocentric douche here?

You DID just advocate deliberate emotional manipulation of another person... I'm not seeing whatever high ground you want to claim. Here, let me help you:

or be a giant tease and be yourself around her.

and

And if she is too shy she needs to get over that.

That right there. You think it's fine to string along someone because if they're an introvert they clearly deserve it. Seems pretty clear to me...

[Cptn Kaladin Anrizlokum]

And this is a fight. Really? Stop.

[pisskop]

And this is a fight. Really? Stop.

Aye, if you insist.  But yo are under no obligation to her.

[Darkmere]

Meh. I call it like I see it. But you asked how to tell her, I answered. I assumed from the OP you *didn't* want to hurt her feelings.

[Cptn Kaladin Anrizlokum]

And this is a fight. Really? Stop.

Aye, if you insist.  But yo are under no obligation to her.

No, besides my moral code. I don't like hurting people if I don't have to.

And I will try what you said Darkmere. It can't really hurt, can it?

[LordBucket]

we have never actually talked

How do I nicely tell her I have a girlfriend?

I don't think any action is required.

[Darkmere]

No, besides my moral code. I don't like hurting people if I don't have to.

And I will try what you said Darkmere. It can't really hurt, can it?

Worst case, she's not interested and you both laugh it off. Best case, you let her down easy and early, and save her grief. Seems like win-win to me.

[acetech09]

In my opinion, best thing to do is wait. The first thing her hearing you say is "Sorry but yeah I have a girlfriend" is a tad bit dickish.

Perhaps try, god forbid, talking to her on a platonic level? One of my female friends started out having a huge crush on me, but now she's good friends with both me and my girlfriend.

[Lyeos]

Worst case, she's not interested and you both laugh it off.

...
Uhhh....


Anyways, as others have said, the chances of this are low considering you've never spoken before.
Acetech's advice on this is pretty solid. Hell, it might just be that she wants to talk to you and that's it.

[Mookzen]

2 is better than 1 fool.

[pisskop]

2 is better than 1 fool.

I just dont see the personalities matching up for that, good sir.  This is b12.