Don't you think that inferring "traitor" on anyone who's already angry instead of trying to address their concerns in a reasonable manner might maybe make the problem worse?
I'm not inferring "traitor," I'm inferring
entitlement, loss of perspective, and a highly charged attitude toward the course of development.
I don't think you're some kind of threat; I just think you should take a deep breath, accept certain incontrovertible facts about DF, e.g. the donationware model and the pace/nature of development, and then, with those facts in mind, take the course of action that makes you happy instead of agonized.
I don't want to put words in his mouth, but his agony is most likely not due to Toady's pace and nature of development - of which I'd classify as "slow" and "poorly done", respectively. It comes from this incredibly culty community who seem convinced that if you love something you must never recognize where it fails.
It is not entitlement to voice this opinion. It would be irresponsible, as both a consumer (and yes, we are consumers, just very non-traditional ones) and as a fan of Dwarf Fortress to stay silent about these issues. We can of course control the tone and tact - both of which I feel NW_Kohaku lacked - but that doesn't change the message.
Finally, I find it extremely disingenuous to try and end an argument with "just accept it". Reminds me of the classic internet argument where someone says "oh well, let's just stop fighting!" the moment they get the last word in. It puts the other party in a no-win situation where they are either criticized for continuing the argument or forced to stay silent.