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Do you want or have children, and how do you feel about your situation?

I want children, but I don't have any.-Male
- 64 (41%)
I want children, but I don't have any.-Female
- 2 (1.3%)
I don't want children and I don't have any.-Male
- 72 (46.2%)
I don't want children and I don't have any.-Female
- 6 (3.8%)
I have children and am happy I had them.-Male
- 9 (5.8%)
I have children and am happy I had them.-Female
- 3 (1.9%)
I have children and I regret it.-Male
- 0 (0%)
I have children and I regret it.-Female
- 0 (0%)

Total Members Voted: 154


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MetalSlimeHunt

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Parents or Childfree?
« on: January 23, 2012, 02:39:34 pm »

I'm curious as to everyone's view towards children and the prospect of living a childfree life, if that is still an option for you. Since you might be wondering, the above poll is sex divided because I want to know any differences of opinion that a person's sex might cause on this issue.

I myself am definitely going to never have children. In fact, I am looking to be sterilized as soon as I possibly can to ensure that this remains a reality. There is absolutely nothing about the idea of having a child that appeals to me in the slightest. Whenever I think of a benefit, there are multiple detriments that completely and utterly outweigh it.

So, what about the rest of you?
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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #1 on: January 23, 2012, 02:44:16 pm »

Sterilization of some sort as soon as I can afford it. Adoption might be on the table at some point in the future, but, without going into specific details, my family's got enough genetic frakups I would be a completely morally bankrupt individual to risk inflicting them on another human being.
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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #2 on: January 23, 2012, 02:49:08 pm »

You don't really account for people who weren't allowed to look after their own children :/

But I'm still happy I had my daughter, even if I rarely get to see her.
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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #3 on: January 23, 2012, 02:49:11 pm »

I'm hoping technology will eventually let me live forever, so I decided that it might be best not to have children so that I don't contribute to overpopulation of the world.

Also I'm incredibly lazy and irresponsible, so it would practically be a crime for me to have children.
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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #4 on: January 23, 2012, 02:50:48 pm »

I've always wanted to have children, and plan on it. I feel I would make a good parent, and as such it is my responsibility - my duty, even, to insure that one of my few productive skills doesn't go to waste. We need more good people in the world, and I think I can pull that off and make the world a bit of a better place.
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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #5 on: January 23, 2012, 02:52:14 pm »

You don't really account for people who weren't allowed to look after their own children :/

But I'm still happy I had my daughter, even if I rarely get to see her.
It's not the aspect of looking after them that's important in the context of the poll. The poll is only meant to measure on an dual axis of situation and happiness with that situation in regards to having children.
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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #6 on: January 23, 2012, 03:11:23 pm »

Id like kids but im shitscared they would end up like me, also, all the women Ive been in relationships with have been, well.... Crazy, and seldom in a good way
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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #7 on: January 23, 2012, 03:14:02 pm »

I want children? I gotta past the family secrets to someone......

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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #8 on: January 23, 2012, 03:15:06 pm »

I would just say not to rush into the sterilization thing. I was deadset against children up into my late 20's. I eventually softened that stance, and I'm glad I did. (Now, I *am* slated to get snipped sometime this year because we don't want more than two, but that's a different matter entirely.)
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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #9 on: January 23, 2012, 03:17:57 pm »

Luckily in today's society we can bottle up our fertility and use it later in a controlled environment.
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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #10 on: January 23, 2012, 03:29:43 pm »

Heh, I swore I would never had any. Now my 2 girls rank alone as the best things I have ever done. Not going to have any more though. 2 is enough.

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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #11 on: January 23, 2012, 03:30:16 pm »

I would just say not to rush into the sterilization thing. I was deadset against children up into my late 20's. I eventually softened that stance, and I'm glad I did. (Now, I *am* slated to get snipped sometime this year because we don't want more than two, but that's a different matter entirely.)
Yeah, it took quite the long think to get to th'point I wanted sterilization.

Basically, I'd rather like to have children, but I am not going to put someone else in the position of having to choose between lifelong drug dependency or insanity/crippling-to-near-crippling mental issues, and there's a way-too-damn-high chance a biological child of mine would have to deal with exactly that. I absolutely refuse to see someone I'm supposed to love, care for, and be responsible for, over all other people in my life, have to suffer to the extent most of my family has. Especially when I can stop it from even being an issue. Anything else would be the height of irresponsibility -- and outright cruelty -- to me. M'not going to play a game of chance with someone else's life, yanno'?

It doesn't help that it'll probably be late 30s/early 40s before I'll be financially stable enough to really provide for a child :-\

Luckily in today's society we can bottle up our fertility and use it later in a controlled environment.
That's the other thought, too, especially if society's capable/willing to screen for a few things (and fix them, damnit) by the time I'm financially stable enough to be able to give a child a good home.
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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #12 on: January 23, 2012, 03:31:29 pm »

I don't know. Sometimes when I see parents with their children or chat with my younger sibling's friends I get a bit paternal. Most of the time I just don't think I'd be a good parent and there is a history of mental health problems on both sides of my family (nothing proven to be hereditary though). I realise many who have children don't exactly feel ready. I'm still waiting to find someone to love let alone have children; I'm still waiting to answer your question for myself.
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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #13 on: January 23, 2012, 03:50:57 pm »

Kids... I'd have to be living on my own first, and that's not happening for at least 4 years.

Then I'd have to be in a relationship, and who knows when that'll happen.

Right now I really have no idea.
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Re: Parents or Childfree?
« Reply #14 on: January 23, 2012, 04:19:37 pm »

I hate kids and would probably make an awful parent. Girlfriend is the opposite.
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