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[Kaiser Reinhard]

Then do it while hanging out at either one of your places? Just keep it casual.

Suppose I could do that, though she doesn't really want to go to my place because my mother saw her hanging out with me once, and she doesn't want any misunderstanding. She's invited me to go over to her place two times, once when I wanted to borrow a DVD and she ended up showing me stuff on her computer in her room for a few hours early last year, and late last year when we wanted to trade some files. Either way, I'll have parents to deal with, and I'd really rather not go through anything like that. It's much easier to just talk about it in public.

And when I do, how should build up to it? Or should I even build up at all?

[Vector]

Whatever you do, don't ask "do you have a crush on me."  That's the worst possible way to do it :I

Other than that, I can't help you, really.  Anyone else?

[Nadaka]

I would suggest just telling her that you really like her and ask if she would consider dating.

But don't pressure her.

If she says yes, great.

If she says no: don't freak out, get depressed or obsess about it.

A friend is still a great thing to have, and if she is a good friend she might be able to introduce you to other girls she knows if she isn't interested herself.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

I would suggest just telling her that you really like her and ask if she would consider dating.

But don't pressure her.

If she says yes, great.

If she says no: don't freak out, get depressed or obsess about it.

A friend is still a great thing to have, and if she is a good friend she might be able to introduce you to other girls she knows if she isn't interested herself.

That's another thing I'm worried about. I don't want her to feel pressured at all, and one thing I'm particularly worried about is her forcing herself to agree to a relationship with me because I'm pretty much one of her only close friends. I'd like to do it in an environment where she can just answer as she thinks.

[Heron TSG]

I don't personally have much practical experience with this to give you. What I said when I started having feelings for a friend of mine was the truth. It was difficult, but worth it. I'm not saying you should repeat these words, this is just an example of what I did.

"I think that you're smart, witty, charming, and your smile is the most beautiful thing that I've ever seen."

Cliched as hell, but it worked.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

I don't personally have much practical experience with this to give you. What I said when I started having feelings for a friend of mine was the truth. It was difficult, but worth it. I'm not saying you should repeat these words, this is just an example of what I did.

"I think that you're smart, witty, charming, and your smile is the most beautiful thing that I've ever seen."

Cliched as hell, but it worked.

"You know, Insert Name Here, I believe I've already said this, but I feel I should say you really are one of the most wonderful people I've had the fortune to meet. When I compare you to other people, you're so much more.. intelligent, mature and charming than the people I run into every day. So, I was thinking.. Insert Name Here, would you be interested in pursuing a relationship with me? I must admit, I think I've fallen for you."

How does that sound?

[Heron TSG]

Maybe say something like 'enter' instead of 'pursue', but it sounds fine to me. Pursuing sounds a bit aggressive.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

Maybe say something like 'enter' instead of 'pursue', but it sounds fine to me. Pursuing sounds a bit aggressive.

Yeah, might be better. Hopefully I won't seem to emotionally attached, so she has an easier time just saying no and then forgetting about it if she doesn't want to.

[Keita]

That's another thing I'm worried about. I don't want her to feel pressured at all, and one thing I'm particularly worried about is her forcing herself to agree to a relationship with me because I'm pretty much one of her only close friends. I'd like to do it in an environment where she can just answer as she thinks.

Well, as you said that her house is a no go, how about when you're walking with her to her house at the end of the day/time your spending time with her?

"You know, Insert Name Here, I believe I've already said this, but I feel I should say you really are one of the most wonderful people I've had the fortune to meet. When I compare you to other people, you're so much more.. intelligent, mature and charming than the people I run into every day. So, I was thinking.. Insert Name Here, would you be interested in pursuing a relationship with me? I must admit, I think I've fallen for you."

How does that sound?

Sounds good and I agree with Barbarossa.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

That's another thing I'm worried about. I don't want her to feel pressured at all, and one thing I'm particularly worried about is her forcing herself to agree to a relationship with me because I'm pretty much one of her only close friends. I'd like to do it in an environment where she can just answer as she thinks.

Well, as you said that her house is a no go, how about when you're walking with her to her house at the end of the day/time your spending time with her?

Not much of an option, since we usually go around by train and there's a train station very near both our houses and we live on opposite sides. Unless I'm going to follow or walk her home we split off right there whenever we go out.

[Keita]

Ah, that is rather a problem :/

Do you split off on the train (Ie one gets off whilst the other stays on) or do you both get off at the train station?

[Kaiser Reinhard]

We get off the train together, then split off at the station entrance. She lives only about 15 minutes away from me.

[Keita]

Hm, I see several ways to go about this but I'd say this if your feeling daring.

Ask if you can walk her home, if she asks why say your being a gentleman/just being nice. Then confess to her when you are in a more quite part of town from a busy train station. Now this give a few other problems like how to bring it up.

Otherwise, As the train station probably has a lot of people there ask if she could come to the side a moment as you need to ask her something, then go with that paragraph you wrote earlier.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

Hm, I see several ways to go about this but I'd say this if your feeling daring.

Ask if you can walk her home, if she asks why say your being a gentleman/just being nice. Then confess to her when you are in a more quite part of town from a busy train station. Now this give a few other problems like how to bring it up.

Otherwise, As the train station probably has a lot of people there ask if she could come to the side a moment as you need to ask her something, then go with that paragraph you wrote earlier.

The path to her house from the train station usually doesn't have a lot of people on it, would it do?

Also, I don't really want to ask for her attention specifically for me to confess, I'd rather do it as we were doing something else, like watching some scenery.

[Il Palazzo]

"You know, Insert Name Here, I believe I've already said this, but I feel I should say you really are one of the most wonderful people I've had the fortune to meet. When I compare you to other people, you're so much more.. intelligent, mature and charming than the people I run into every day. So, I was thinking.. Insert Name Here, would you be interested in pursuing a relationship with me? I must admit, I think I've fallen for you."

How does that sound?

Ugh.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A7y7NafWXeM

What I think would happen, you'd just get overwhelmed by emotions and forget what you were planning to say anyway.
Keep it simple, man.

Do you think that simply asking her out for a cup of coffe, then maybe to a cinema, some food etc, and letting the relationship evolve naturally without any of that confessing stuff wouldn't work?