Caroline, your mother does not know how to be a good parent.
Or, to be more precise, her parenting methods are...very inefficient.
Verbal abuse coupled with physical abuse does not lead to the holistic health (mental or physical) of a child.
Later that night my mom brought my sister into her room, and we all slept together.
Err... I get what you mean, but this would be hilarious if the whole situation wasn't FUBAR.
On what to do: You're still physically a dude, right? Around fifteen, or seventeen, if you're gonna be able to move out in a year?
Hit her back.
I'm serious. It's one of the most horrible things one can do, hitting one's parent, but it might be the only way to get through to her. What's she gonna do - beat you more?
Helgo, this is
extremely bad advice.Do you know how the cycle of abuse continues? Revenge like this.
Abuse others, it chains up a reaction--problem is, its a choice. While it may grant 'satisfaction' in the short-term, as well as probably giving
some form of reprieve, it does not help in the long-term at all. While it may give Caroline a sense of relief, I do sincerely believe she is not that kind of person--thus so, if you think about the person you'd strike back: will they learn? And
how? Won't the act probably reinforce their mannerisms and dispositions towards acts of violence and situations of possible harm?
Those things are not 'that simple', there.
You do not give advice like this in all seriousness as a 'resort to change them'.
What is the best way is to show or teach them how to approach the situation through the adversity of screaming and fear--to approach it directly with words, and to get support beforehand: it'd be very hard to face this alone, though it is possible; in Caroline's case, she needs support.
Especially in a case of Honduras. Paranoia won't help though--being aware and balancing that paranoia out with tempered discipline would (PS: What your parents do is not good discipline...)
Support your sister, Caroline. Ask aid from the guidance counselors. Hopefully, you'd tell them this situation as is...and add a note that they could please not tell your parents until you're done talking to them and all. (as in, detail the situation for those who can and are oriented to helping you and your family; you're afraid, tell them of the possible consequence if the offending party was informed before all information can be given--hopefully they're informed this is a very serious thing with your life). Inquire about child protection services maybe, or the presence of Child and Women's groups or such, or ask for assessment from the counselors about the situation?
And...your counselor is correct. Forgive your parents for what they've done--the acts are a different thing than your parents. Don't carry a grudge against them; against the actions, yes, but not against them (though it is hard to explain how this works in word -.-).
He's pretty much advocating what is being taught in religion
Though...not how your parents teach it. (I mean seriously nhggh. As a theologian, what they do isn't...No.) :I
*reads past two pages of thread*
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So, um. Any progress on the ol' Get Caroline The Hell Out Of There Fund?
Has anybody set that up yet? I'd donate for sure. The police there is corrupt, right? I think I know what to do with the money...
Please don't generalize a whole entity -_-
While it is true there are elements of corruption within certain establishments, this does not apply
to the whole force: there are people who are not corrupt, but the illusion of corruption either permeates the area that it seems a ton bigger than it really is, or those stationed in certain positions are the corrupt ones (instead of others stationed in other places) due to their exposure and vicinity towards certain criminal elements.