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[shadow_archmagi]

So during Science Olympiad today I met this girl and she seemed really depressed and I asked her why and she told me she had completely bombed her event and I was like "Meh event shevent" but she insisted that her parents would be pissed off and disapointed as hell just like they're always pissed off and disapointed as hell. Then an hour later she was still pretty depressed and then she told me that she was actually sad because her dad had died a year ago today and her brother had called her to say that it was entirely her fault and if she had been a better daughter dad would still be alive. She also mentioned that her mother and stepfather agree with her brother. Then it was time for my event (Nerd pictionary. We got 2 words correct, which put us in third place. I drew one of the words (Cytoplasm) and guessed the other. (Genetic Mutation) Go me. Shiny bronze metal). When I got back she was playing cards and seemed cheerful. Then at the end of the day I saw her calling home to say that the awards ceremony was over and she needed to be picked up and hadn't won anything. She said her stepfather had been like "Why did you not place what kind of stupid not-placing idiot are you."

This sounds really bad what do I do.

[Dr. Johbson]

I recommend you both take yoga classes, or at least get her into it. Meditation and all that jazz really helps with emotional problems, which are the first you would want to fix.

[Duke 2.0]

 Alas, there is little one can do beyond being a good friend and being there for her when she isn't around them. If she can somehow get involved in stuff outside of the home that you can attend you can be the emotional support her family is withholding. Perhaps even find where she goes for classes and talk to a councilor about it, see what they have to say.

[Jude]

You don't try to take advantage of her emotional problems to get with her

[Armok]

NO! BAD JUDE! *Slaps Jude with newspaper.*

[shadow_archmagi]

You don't try to take advantage of her emotional problems to get with her

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVxLz6O6MaI

that was a given

[chaoticag]

Offer her support, listen to her. It would also be nice if you can find some sort of group of people that went through the same problems she has been going through, maybe even over the internet.

She needs a few outlets to vent all this out, and people to reassure her that she is worth more than what her family places on her.

[Vector]

Don't let her drag you down.  I've been insane and depressed before.  It turns you into an incredibly cold, callous, and abusive person, cruising for other people's resources and attention.  Now, I'm not saying this particular girl is a nutbag--but watch out.  Desperate people can be cruel.

[Cthulhu]

NO! BAD JUDE! *Slaps Jude with newspaper.*

Armok supports taking advantage of emotional problems to get with girls.

[sonerohi]

I've always thought that whole idea of "Get with someone while they are drunk/vulnerable" was a little rapey.

[Jude]

I've always thought that whole idea of "Get with someone while they are drunk/vulnerable" was a little rapey.

Well "rapey" is a little strong but it's mad grody I'd say

[sonerohi]

Well, the whole definition is non-consensual. Circumstantial consent to me sees to fit that definition.

[Pandarsenic]

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Alas, there is little one can do beyond being a good friend and being there for her when she isn't around them. If she can somehow get involved in stuff outside of the home that you can attend you can be the emotional support her family is withholding. Perhaps even find where she goes for classes and talk to a councilor about it, see what they have to say.

You don't try to take advantage of her emotional problems to get with her

Offer her support, listen to her. It would also be nice if you can find some sort of group of people that went through the same problems she has been going through, maybe even over the internet.

She needs a few outlets to vent all this out, and people to reassure her that she is worth more than what her family places on her.

Don't let her drag you down.  I've been insane and depressed before.  It turns you into an incredibly cold, callous, and abusive person, cruising for other people's resources and attention.  Now, I'm not saying this particular girl is a nutbag--but watch out.  Desperate people can be cruel.

These.

[shadow_archmagi]

Perhaps even find where she goes for classes and talk to a councilor about it, see what they have to say.

She goes to my school.

She needs a few outlets to vent all this out, and people to reassure her that she is worth more than what her family places on her.

Can do.

Don't let her drag you down.  I've been insane and depressed before.  It turns you into an incredibly cold, callous, and abusive person, cruising for other people's resources and attention.  Now, I'm not saying this particular girl is a nutbag--but watch out.  Desperate people can be cruel.

This one doesn't seem like it'll be a problem; talked to her at lunch yesterday and she seemed completely normal. I think if I hadn't actually witnessed the semi-breakdown I would never have known.

You don't try to take advantage of her emotional problems to get with her

This is the difficult one.  I mean, I don't want to sound like a rapist. Certainly my goal here is to improve the lives of OTHERS, not me.  I'm not going to sit down and think "Now how can make this situation end with me having a chick."

That said, what if I give the wrong impression? What if she gets the idea? What do I say then? "Sorry, but I can't date you on account of you're crazy?"

[Deon]

You don't try to take advantage of her emotional problems to get with her

But also you don't try NOT to take an advantage. Your sentence was too general.
 If you make her and then run away, it's one thing. A special level of hell.
 If you comfort her and everything comes along smoothly, do what you feel.


At least this is how I've got a wife. Careful, man .
"We are responsible for those whom have tamed."