So, I was invited to a barbeque yesterday at a friend's house. Another friend, whom I spend nearly all my time with, was to be there also. I show up at the house, there's a few people I don't know, but that's okay. I wait quietly, observing the other people interacting (This is what I do at parties. It's actually fun sometimes.) for awhile.
Let me lay the scene. I've included pictures of myself on the Photoshare thread, so I'll just explain clothes. I was wearing a pair of home-made jean cut off shorts, a red t-shirt that says Doubt Me in black then white letters, respectively, and a pair of black shoes. I just worked that whole day, worked my ass off, so I was covered with assorted small scrapes, cuts, bruises, and various other minor injuries. I didn't think I looked especially good, mind you, but red is a power color, so there was that. Anyways.
There are several people there, including two couples. One couple is the party-throwers, and the other is the female's brother and his girlfriend. There is also two brothers there, another male I didn't know, and finally me, and my friend, who showed up later. I was standing near the table, listening to everyone talk, when eventually the brother's girlfriend turns to the sister and gets my name. She turns to me, (I watched this, so I knew she wanted my attention) and says, "So, Jacob, you know there's another chair, right?"
"I didn't mind standing, and I didn't want to impose on anyone." I explain as I sit down. I introduce myself to the people I don't know, and they keep talking for awhile. Finally my friend arrives, and immediately begins starting shit with me. I inform him that I'm going to a festival soon, and he cuts me off and acts like a dick about it. I keep trying to be diplomatic, and eventually I just say, "No, fuck this. I'm not dealing with this bullshit. I'm leaving." And I storm out. (Mind you, I'm an incredibly calm person. Most people NEVER see me angry.)
I walk to my car, fuming. The girlfriend follows me out, saying, "No, wait! Don't leave!" She follows me out to my car. I have the door open, and she's standing on the other side of my car, trying to convince me to stay. I get in my car, and start driving away.
I got halfway back 'up' to the highway, still absolutely furious, and I say, "No." I spin my car 180 degrees, and drive back. I don't know why I did, but I did. I get back to the house, and the males are standing by the door to the house, talking. I walk past them, tersely growling, "I came back." I get into the house, and resume my previous position, standing to one side, when the girlfriend gestures to me, waving me over to her. I step to her, and she hands me a pipe. In front of a roomful of pot smokers, she smokes a bowl with just me. (I doubt most of you are pot smokers, but most people don't do that because it's really quite rude. Sort of like eating dinner with company over and never offering them any.)
Then she engages me in conversation and we talked about how we'd seen each other before, but never met, and a few other things. This goes on for awhile, until eventually I'm back to my natural state, standing there watching people have more fun than me. I notice she keeps giving me little glances, when her boyfriend isn't looking, over the course of the night. Eventually, the sister notices I'm sort of disconnected again, and she has me sit in the middle of the group of people and talk to her. (Don't do this to shy people, please. I can handle it because I'm not near as shy as some, but it's still pretty damn uncomfortable.) I make awkward chitchat until the food is served, then the brother/girlfriend have to go. The brother goes to say goodbye to his sister, who was helping get the food, and the girlfriend said, "Goodbye everyone!" Then, she turned, and quite deliberately, said, "Goodbye Jacob!"
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I think I might have accidentally done everything right, as far as trying to attract a girl goes.
-Power color/color of attraction/passion/etc? Check.
-Keep your face tilted so they look up at you? Check. (Studies have proven women find men more attractive when viewed from a lower angle. And this girl was 4'11, I'm 6'1. >.> )
-Show passion about something? Check. (It was a dumb thing to get passionate about, but I sure as shit got passionate, FAST.)
-Don't smile unless they smile first? Check. (Studies! Yes, approachable people are easier for most people, but attractive people that BECOME approachable when you smile at them? Even better!)
Now why can't I do this sort of thing on purpose? To girls that don't have boyfriends?