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[Paxiecrunchle]

 Lately I've been struggling with my feelings about come to terms with the fact that I'll most likley never see the person I realized I'd fallen in love with in high school, because timing was bad and I've never had a way to propperly contact them. Yet it eats at me too often, I beat myself up over not compromising myself just to gain time to at least  build a working relationship. I could have pourpose fully failed a course and gotten enough time to at least network,  but choose not to.

 I could've visited the area sooner but I was too embarrassed, I feel feel horrible about not even really getting a chance at any kind of closure, heck  if I had worked out the timing a little better I could've asked some of my other friends to act as intermediaries, but I suppose it was too confident in my ability to deal with everything on my own at the time to ask for help.

 In short I've come to the conclusion that I'll probably never see this person again and I'll probably never end up knowing how I felt about them, how do I let go of all of that?

[MetalSlimeHunt]

Simply put, you have to make it a habit to stop yourself from ruminating and focus on what's in front of your life instead. As I'm sure you've discovered, ruminating is an infinite process and does nothing.

[nenjin]

You can also funnel your angst in to something, which helps a lot with avoiding rumination. Like: self-improvement through physical exercise (my current personal favorite), learning and creative/artistic pursuits. Sometimes angst gets in the way of creativity but other times it can be fuel for it.

It is much harder to avoid ruminating when you're not moving, and that can tend to include video games which, while distracting, don't really help you exercise your demons very well unless the game itself helps you come to some poignant realizations about yourself or your situation.

[Avarice]

Nejin ftw

[Paxiecrunchle]

You can also funnel your angst in to something, which helps a lot with avoiding rumination. Like: self-improvement through physical exercise (my current personal favorite), learning and creative/artistic pursuits. Sometimes angst gets in the way of creativity but other times it can be fuel for it.

It is much harder to avoid ruminating when you're not moving, and that can tend to include video games which, while distracting, don't really help you exercise your demons very well unless the game itself helps you come to some poignant realizations about yourself or your situation.

I know this is late, but thank you very much.