I like to do tantra, of all kinds. Somehow, sex is not merely a physical act, but mental and spiritual, when you do it with the correct partner.
Sex and sexuality should make you more, a better person. Believing in love is just so... right... and somehow so very sexy. Like the tenderness of loving a woman who is bearing your child... somehow, sex is more than touching, but making relationships, and futures.
We shouldn't become less for sexuality, degraded or seeking pleasure. Our experiences should not take away from our hearts, until we feel there is something missing. Our hearts should not protest at the emptiness of our lives, even if our hearts enjoy the pleasure of sex, it will ultimately ache.
Sex is a part of us, how we were all born (how almost every living thing was born) and we shouldn't be ashamed or embarrassed. We should try to understand, accept and become one with our nature, the meaning of life (is to give life) and love (is unconditional).
Having children is a form of life after death, somehow carrying a part of us in them. We become traumatised by contact with sexual partners so badly that we can never forget, and so excited by sex that we wish to die.
When sex is sterile, there is no pleasure. Sex is a performance too, and so is half-sex. Even thoughts and speech about sex is a sexual performance.
On the one hand, sex gives us power: "I'm your partner, look how fertile I am"
on the other, it robs us of power: "I love you, I want you, I need you"
but humans can say what no being has ever said before with understanding: "I want to have children with you" "I want to share everything with you"
Why waste important parts of your life with people who don't care for you?
The show of life is enjoyed by those who love it.
The show of sex is best enjoyed by those who love you, and who you love.
If it is so important, why not treat it as a form of meditation? After all, it does put you in a trance state, and this was even noted by the ancient tantric and taoist sages and even
satanic perverts.They all understood the power of sex on the psyche: The unconscious male and female, the desire to intimate, reproduce, nurture and grow/create.
It is very telling that humans live with their parents for the longest time out of any animal. Sex means commitment, and child rearing. When a human being chooses a mate, it chooses a mate that will raise children for up to 20 years!
No other species is reared for such a long time until adulthood. We select for a future.
And when we forget that sex is, and has been, our future, we forget our past, our ancestors, and everything that makes us, us.
Tantra is so deep and immersive, and so very beautiful when you are in love. It is the fulfillment of our existence.
In just a moment, you may experience eons, or 6 hours may pass like the blink of an eye.
It is such an intense form of concentration, that left naturally, it is, at best, destructive and wild, but when mastered it is both restrained and powerful.
It is really quite truly moving to be loved by someone who cares SO much, and tells you with every touch, kiss and caress, how they will always be there for you, wants to be there for you, wants to have children with you, and live their life with you, happily until death.
To look in the eyes of one's lover whilst in meditative trance is like looking into the ocean, or a sea of stars in which you see your own self merging for the purpose of which you came together...
Sometimes base and rude- it is always overlooked,
Sometimes pure and good- it is always appreciated