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[Rolan7]

Yeah I don't get the problem really...  Hitting on people isn't a problem if you stop when rebuffed (well and other stuff like not being at work, etc).  Sounds like he found some lesbians who weren't 100% homo, which makes sense to me.  I mean heck, lots of girls try "being lesbian".  Which I think is cool, people should be open minded and figure out what they actually like.

I don't even believe in 100% homo or hetero sexuality.  Certainly could be real, I just have doubts.  Maybe people are attracted to certain traits, and they get used to finding those traits in one of the two genders (cuz that's what you're supposed to do, right?)

But I'm probably waaaay projecting my own experience on other people, there

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[Neonivek]

Because here is the thing and I know it is a hard one to grasp but...

Sexual attraction is not "I am entirely not attracted to you 100%" and "You are viable for sexy times"

It is entirely possible, in fact... usually the case... That you are sexually attracted to someone but sexually repulsed on the prospect and act of having sex with them.

It is why I said "Sexual attraction is a lot like a sense"... It isn't a boning meter.

Which is where Cat is getting caught up. He is conflating attraction with Sex-ability where the inference is the only reason they don't sex him is because they are staunchly holding onto their perceived sexual orientation.

[Urist McScoopbeard]

It is entirely possible, in fact... usually the case... That you are sexually attracted to someone but sexually repulsed on the prospect and act of having sex with them.

... Not sure I would call that sexual attraction.

EDIT: In fact, that sounds a lot like what is widely referred to as "friendship" or "platonic love".

EDITEDIT: Also, I'm not saying sexual attraction is a "boning meter" as you say, but the whole point of classifying it as sexual is that is... well, sexual.

[Neonivek]

It is entirely possible, in fact... usually the case... That you are sexually attracted to someone but sexually repulsed on the prospect and act of having sex with them.

... Not sure I would call that sexual attraction.

EDIT: In fact, that sounds a lot like what is widely referred to as "friendship" or "platonic love".

No... I am using Sexual attraction to mean sexual attraction.

Just because someone is sexually attracted to you... it doesn't mean they want to have sex with you.

It doesn't mean that they are holding themselves back...

[Urist McScoopbeard]

Bro. I feel like you are really going back on what you're saying here.

EDIT in response to your edit: OKAY. I think it's commonly understood we don't spend most of our time consciously restraining ourselves from raping the people around us who find attractive, but if you're SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE, then, BY DEFINITION, you would like to engage in some form of sexually gratifying activity with them.

[Neonivek]

Because here is the thing and I know it is a hard one to grasp but...

Sexual attraction is not "I am entirely not attracted to you 100%" and "You are viable for sexy times"

It is entirely possible, in fact... usually the case... That you are sexually attracted to someone but sexually repulsed on the prospect and act of having sex with them.

It is why I said "Sexual attraction is a lot like a sense"... It isn't a boning meter.

Which is where Cat is getting caught up. He is conflating attraction with Sex-ability where the inference is the only reason they don't sex him is because they are staunchly holding onto their perceived sexual orientation.

I don't think I am....

[Rolan7]

Do you mean like, being ashamed of being attracted to someone?
Because yeah, that's a thing...  Being attracted to someone and sickened by that...

That's definitely sexual attraction though, just with unfortunate social bullshit or whatever

[Catmeat]

I get where you are coming from Neon though dont confuse me for a sleazy person. If anyone rejects my flirting then I happily move along.
Im just saying that I think most people are Bi, like myself

[Urist McScoopbeard]

I guess I'm quite confused by what you're trying to say here (Neonivek.) You have a sexual orientation. It's the standard by which you measure your sexual attraction to someone. There is no uniformly defined way to measure "sex-ability"? Because that is affected by your orientation.

[x2yzh9]

Okay, what I don't understand is how are you going to infer someones sexual orientation based on simple deductions and not actually..well, proving it? Am I right or am I wrong when I say actions speak louder than words and such?

[Dozebôm Lolumzalìs]

What IS sexual attraction anyway?

[Urist McScoopbeard]

"Sexual attraction is attraction on the basis of sexual desire or the quality of arousing such interest.[1][2] Sexual attractiveness or sex appeal is an individual's ability to attract the sexual or erotic interest of another person, and is a factor in sexual selection or mate choice. The attraction can be to the physical or other qualities or traits of a person, or to such qualities in the context in which they appear. The attraction may be to a person's aesthetics or movements or to their voice or smell, besides other factors. The attraction may be enhanced by a person's adornments, clothing, perfume or style. It can also be influenced by individual genetic, psychological, or cultural factors, or to other, more amorphous qualities of the person. Sexual attraction is also a response to another person that depends on a combination of the person possessing the traits and also on the criteria of the person who is attracted.

Though attempts have been made to devise objective criteria of sexual attractiveness, and measure it as one of several bodily forms of capital asset (see erotic capital), a person's sexual attractiveness is to a large extent a subjective measure dependent on another person's interest, perception, and sexual orientation." -- Quoth Wikipedia

EDIT: I think that sums it up surprisingly well.

[Tiruin]

Woah, I come back after a signal 4 storm and stuff happened ._.
Glad to see people being reasonable

[TheBiggerFish]

You, uh, missed the crazy guy.

[Tiruin]

You, uh, missed the crazy guy.

If you mean someone who is somehow now renamed for some reason, I did respond to him. It got deleted in the derail