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[hops]

I don't understand how people interact with strangers.

Like you're apparently supposed to pretend they care about what you have to say, even though they don't, in order to build enough rapport for them to actually care about what you have to say? But it's annoying to bug people with things they don't care about?

How did I even manage to have friends

[Dozebôm Lolumzalìs]

I don't understand how people interact with strangers.

Like you're apparently supposed to pretend they care about what you have to say, even though they don't, in order to build enough rapport for them to actually care about what you have to say? But it's annoying to bug people with things they don't care about?

How did I even manage to have friends

By interacting with people who care what you have to say to begin with. Common interests and all.

WAIT WHAT THE HELL

How am I giving interpersonal relations advice?

[Solifuge]

Cinder, you just have to give strangers the benefit of the doubt. Some people do small talk that's relatable to most anyone. Sometimes, I like to broach real talk with strangers too; disclose sensitive or personal or sometimes socially risky information or opinions, which lets strangers know what kind of person they're talking to.

Put yourself in a strangers shoes; odds are their desires and concerns aren't that different than yours. Think about the way a stranger you'd like to talk with and get to know would talk to you, and try to do that with them. Empathy has a lot of uses.

[Arx]

I do social interaction by... in Afrikaans it's called 'picking up stompies', which are cigarette butts, but it sounds terrible in English.

Anyway, if I happen to catch a snippet of a loud conversation amongst a group that seems open and friendly, and I have a relevant thing to say, I'll toss it in. It's a good way of making casual friends, or at least people whose names you know.

The other way is, when waiting for the same thing as someone else, to strike up an idle conversation about it.

[TempAcc]

I do social interaction by... in Afrikaans it's called 'picking up stompies', which are cigarette butt

"picking up butts"

Now there's a bit of social interaction I'm ok with.
Anyway, there are people, people are usualy able to talk, so you talk to them. Comment on things they ask if its appropriate, and allow conversations to flow by itself. You can talk to all kinds of people with all kinds of nonsensical talk.

Don't be worried about scaring people, thats a good thing.
Because anyone that doesn't like you should at least be scared of you :U

[Yoink]

A combination of tiredness, anxiety, unhappiness, a lack of sufficient pockets and the fact that I just got paid a few days ago have combined and are rapidly convincing me to not go to "work" this morning. In fact, they pretty much have already. I can always get more sleep tonight and go tomorrow and the next day instead, and even if there is a problem I have plenty of time to sort it before my next unemployment payment is due to come in.

Kinda wish I had something worthwhile to actually do with my self-proclaimed day off, though.

Edit: Forgot to mention that my alarm either didn't go off this morning or I somehow slept through it, waking up about a half-hour or so late.
I need time to wake up before doing things this early, damnit, at least when I sleep schedule isn't very good. Spoiler alert: It isn't.

[Shadowlord]

I don't understand how people interact with strangers.

Like you're apparently supposed to pretend they care about what you have to say, even though they don't, in order to build enough rapport for them to actually care about what you have to say? But it's annoying to bug people with things they don't care about?

How did I even manage to have friends

What people really want is for other people to listen to them talk.

[TD1]

I don't understand how people interact with strangers.

Like you're apparently supposed to pretend they care about what you have to say, even though they don't, in order to build enough rapport for them to actually care about what you have to say? But it's annoying to bug people with things they don't care about?

How did I even manage to have friends

What people really want is for other people to listen to them talk.

True enough, I suppose, but not always true. I sit next to someone who has some very interesting things to say on history every now and then.

[TempAcc]

I for one prefer when people actualy talk back :U, I hate the feeling of having someone completely passively listen to me.

[Yoink]

So I found an Australian liquor website selling Buckfast (which I have never tried) for quite cheap and got quite excited, but then the shipping costs doubled the price... then I noticed a "local pickup" option which raised my hopes again, only for them to be dashed once more when I realised the physical roots of said website were two liquor stores all the way over in Western freakin' Australia.

How unhelpful.
Cursory googling suggests there's not really anywhere else in Australia that sells the stuff.

[TD1]

Oh dear good God

Do not get Buckfast.

It's a byward for acid round these parts.

((Even if it is affectionately called buckie too))

[Shadowlord]

I for one prefer when people actualy talk back :U, I hate the feeling of having someone completely passively listen to me.

Yep. I didn't mean completely passively. 

[Eric Blank]

Brother had to come over and bring his girlfriend. I'd really appreciate a day without being reminded that i'm single and unemployed.

[Yoink]

For some stupid reason I went to family's place this evening and now have stayed up 'til past midnight.
There's no way I can reasonably get up and go to work at 5AM now, barring energy drink which is expensive... and the supermarket is closed that early, so I'd have to buy it from a servo ("gas station") on my way and that would be even more expensive.

Honestly I can't really be bothered. It's not like this "job" actually benefits me in any way.
But I will probably have my pitiful unemployment payment severed if I don't show up too many days in a row. Maybe I can get a medical certificate stating that I had good reason for being absent...

[Shadowlord]

Yesterday, I tl;dr'd a couple of weird's posts, and then a couple more, and today I just skipped 6 pages or something in the ameripol thread.

I should probably just go back to not reading it at all.