#itsparentingstupid
basically
And @OW's shitpost: Or at least acknowledge how often it is that's pretty close to the worst possible outcome. We've still got plenty of christians (among others, of course) killing (among all sorts of other things) their children and being basically let get away with it because that (and especially growing up with the biological parents) is seen as some kind of ideal state.
Eh. Having two parents (or at least more adults in the house so it's not one parent doing anything) is a positive for everyone. Trying to raise kids on your own,
and work for a living is hard. It's hard on the kids too, who don't get as much time with their parent.
I do agree that keeping a nuclear family intact in spite of abuse, etc. is a terrible approach, but breaking it up to pre-empt that is also foolish.
And, yeah. Biology is basically irrelevant when it comes to parenting, so it's kinda dumb that people think that's important.
Christian counseling and whatnot also causes a frankly horrendous amount of fuckup in a number of countries regarding marriage counseling, child rearing, etc., etc.
Christian counselling is basically terrible, yeah. Along with any other ideologically-driven counselling (unless that ideology is "a secular approach to arrive at the best outcome" but that doesn't really count).
Bible wasn't particularly good regarding child rearing and family structures.
I dunno, it gets the basic points in order. OT has a very... traditional(?) approach to family structure, which to be fair is about as good as it was going to get at the time. A traditional approach that generally works is vastly easier to maintain, at least.
In the NT family structure is a minor point, but there are strong themes around marriage of working towards closer understanding and agreement. The husband is the head of the household in the style of Roman law at the time, which today should be mostly irrelevant when the couple is in agreement, and is a waste of time when they're not.
Finally, the moral imperative of "In all things, work for the good of those around you" is plenty of justification IMO to give plently of leeway in family structure for the people involved to be happy and healthy.