"It was made by men" and "It was made for men" really shouldn't come into play.
Actually that's literally the problem as the vast,
vast majority of AAA games are made by men and for men and do absolutely zilch to cater for women.
I will admit, they are getting a little better at remembering that women play games too. But "better" is not a reason we should stop hounding them. The reason Nintendo is so, so successful is because they cater to everyone. Moms, dads, kids, teens, and college kids. There's no one you don't know that wouldn't like playing one nintendo game or other. Can you say that for major AAA game releases?
Nope. They're catered to a very narrow demographic. Males, age 12-25. There are always purchasers outside the demographic, as there always is.
But they're catering to that group specifically and always. Never women.
There is no problem with female abuse. One of the aspects of not being sexist is not to give anyone special treatment. I think though the difference is the type of abuse women tend to suffer in videogames as well as how it relates to them.
E: Excuse you? There is absolutely problems with abuse.
You can make a good and dark game without abusing anyone, especially women who are often the target of this abuse for for !!edgefactor!!