we should probably discuss whether we need particular gender roles in our modern society. What do you say?
"Need?" No. But there's nothing particularly wrong with it, either. It's valid and ok for there to be gender roles. But if people don't like them, I don't see any tremendous benefit to sticking with systems people don't like.
Thing is...some situations exist as natural consequence of more fundamental conditions. If I pour sand out of a vase onto the ground, the pile it forms will tend to resemble a cone. If I go to Mars and pour gravel out of a dumptruck...the pile it forms will tend to also resemble a cone. Different materials, different place, different tools, different components...similar result. Why? Because gravity is a constant.
Gender, I suspect...is also a thing that is probably result of basic conditions. No, it's not an absolute result. Yes, life can exist without two genders. And if you pour water instead of sand you don't get a cone. Nevertheless, it's a common, likely, probable result. As evidence I give you the majority of multi-cellular life known to our species. Two genders is the most common reproductive arrangement known to us.
If a condition like gravity tends to like to produce cones from poured material, and certain properties of life tend to life to produce gender...it doesn't seem unreasonable to me to suggest that the specific condition of human gender might tend to produce certain trends as well. It's not unreasonable to suggest that "gender roles in society" might be one of those things that tend to fall into certain patterns.
I think it would be silly to suggest that those patterns are "natural, and therefore morally correct and anything else is wrong!" But nevertheless, these trends probably exist for reasons. Being
angry about those trends probably isn't especially productive. Any more than being angry about gravity would be productive. If you don't
like it, then build a rocket ship. Or a ladder. Poof, you've overcome gravity. But for most people "overcoming gravity" doesn't really need to be a huge focus in their day to day life.
I think it would be healthy to view gender roles in a similar light.
It's ok if there are gender roles. Fighting against them solely for the sake of fighting against them is rarely a good use of energy. But attaching too much significance to them can also result in error. Like claiming that it's "god's will" that mankind be confined to earth by gravity and that it' therefore "sinful" to build rockets to fly to other worlds. It's just as silly to say that "you are a male, therefore it is morally imperative that you ask the girl to dance, and anything else is sinful!" Don't misunderstand.
It's ok, if the convention is that guys ask girls to dance. But can't we do away with all the anger and angst and guilt some people attach to these issues?
I think human morphological freedom would be a healthy situation for humanity. People who don't like their gender can change. No big deal. People who feel the other side has it better can change, no big deal. And maybe some of those people will change...and with the benefit of having seen things from the other side, they'll understand better and see that the "grass is not so much greener" and change back. And some people would change back and forth as casually as they change clothes, for aesthetics and convenience.
And that would be ok.