Could be somewhat the case. Welp, we ruined it for everybody else. Have fun with that.
Great, I go from "Straight white male oppressor" to "Bi white male oppressor", just can't catch a break!
Well, you, by being out, are helping out
. I really think homophobia wouldn't be as big a deal, especially with men, if more bisexuals (including those in heterosexual relationships) came out.
Here in San Francisco, bears only date bears, though twinks and non-twinks (that are also not bears) do date. The bear community is very bear-centric here. I have a lot of bear friends, though I'm not one, and every single one of them is dating another bear. They go to bear club events, like "Bearracuda" and frequent bear-majority hangouts like the Castro & 18th Starbucks that everyone calls Bearbucks.
Wow this isn't even joking is it?
Nope, not joking at all. However, there's a reason for it (not necessarily a good one, but yeah). Here in SF, the reigning body type for gay men for a long, long time was the ultra-muscular, manscaped one. If you didn't have a six-pack, you were fat and ugly. When describing someone like me, I'm "straight average" but "gay morbidly obese." Silly and exaggerated, but there's definitely truth in how skewed the body culture is in some gay meccas.
The bear body type is in direct opposition to this. Beer bellies and body hair are celebrated. So many bears have been told that they're ugly that they've become very insular. Unfortunately, this means that the bear community has now created it's own dogmatic rules on what is attractive and what isn't. It kind of sucks, because I've been attracted to some bears, but because I don't have a lot of body or facial hair, I'm automatically not their type.