Interesting, as in a well formed personality that is robust, self-directing, independent, and experienced.
Preferences for sensibility (eg, practicality), frugalness, ingenuity, creative problem solving, and long term planning.
It has been my experience that western culture programs women to want to live in a rainbow sunshine fantasy world filled with shoe shopping, fancy clothes, over-emphasis on relationships, and "cute."
Most don't really know what they want, and suffer repeatedly in the relationship game, because they keep going for what society has programmed them to, instead of what really makes them happy. Eg, "big muscular bad boy with troubled past keeps beating me! Boo hoo! I will find a different big muscular bad boy with a troubled past who will beat me!" Or, "clean shaven rich guy with money out the wazoo keeps treating me like an adornment and cheating on me! I'll show him! I'll get another rich, clean shaven corporate backstabber to make me his trophy girlfriend!"
I am not interested in a sexual partner, I am interested in a person I can have a meaningful relationship with. This means I am looking for another independent mind I can scheme with, and a enjoyable, deep personality I can relax around, bounce ideas off, go jogging with, etc. Its like a really good friendship only deeper. If you can, try to imagine the infatuation of love, but without sexual feelings. Intimacy != sex.
It has been my extreme misfortune that all the women I have come across that are mentally compatible are sexually incompatible. The rare occurance of non-homosexual women who have "matured" and found themselves that I have come across have always been married already. Homosexual males are usually incompatible, and or, exhibit unwanted sexual attention.
I have a preference for strong female personalities over male ones.
It has been my experience that lesbians pretty much *have* to reject the "fairy princess and prince charming" social program from an early age, and blaze new ground on coming to terms with their sexual identities, and so bloom as "real women" very soon, after an akward period of adjustment in early life. This in stark comparison to those afflicted with "Pink aisle madness", where being bounced around and getting shit on in bullshit fake relationships a few times is what is necessary for the scales to fall off the eyes, and for them to realize who they are and what they really do and don't find desirable.
Look at kodkod: she knows what she is, who she is, what she likes, and how she likes it. Won't compromise on her standards and practices. Doesn't care what the social trainwreck thinks about her preferences. She's robust, intelligent, methodical. I can't help but be attracted to her personality. I would totally be best friends with her if possible, and help her pick out punk outfits. The incompatible genders prevent anything more meaningful, and I am perfectly ok about that.
The question was mostly rhetorical, disparaging my endless bad luck at beingly hoplessly attracted to lesbians where mutual atraction is flat out not happenin.
I know what I am, who I am, what I like, and how I like it, and I really really don't like fairy princesses, and clinging succubi. I find them outright repulsive, even. Get in a huff about prada shoes or a designer handbag, and its game over hun. No, I won't give up crochet because you think it looks gay for a grown man to have a sewing basket. No, I don't care that my hair looks bad today, unless it is over the top bad. No, I won't wear designer clothes simply because a high priced gay fashion designer made it. If it isn't comfortable, and I'm not confortable wearing it, it won't be worn. Sure, I'll go to the baby/bridal shower... what do they need, and what's already been got for them? Sure, I'll go grocery shopping with you, let me get my shoes on. Etc.. etc..
Homosexuals are far more common than asexuals, and not many heterosexual females have the abysmally rare constellation features I find attractive due to social programming, and other factors. I am pretty much a space alien when it comes to what is normally expected in an intimate relationship, and I am well at grips with that. Doesn't mean I can't lament the near non-existence of what I find favorable though.
Ironically, kodkod and I probably have similar taste in women. LOL. She's just more likely to score.