masculinity is inextricably bound to violence <= current state in most of the world, she says..
Yes, and as a guy, I agree.
Pretty much every traditional view of masculinity is bound up in using force to maintain your position and dominance. It's hard to pretend otherwise.
But there is a clear difference between these views of masculinity and being male. Masculinity is the cultural view of maleness, but not an inherent property of being a male. The 'bound to violence' part belongs squarely on the cultural side of things.
The problem here is that, culturally, men are encouraged towards these standards of masculinity that are 'bound to violence', making such violence more normalised. The entire article is about changing these standards of masculinity away from such harmful models. It's worth noting again that the groups she mentions and promotes are largely male-lead.
domestic abuse is stated as a subset of gendered violence. She just states that this is the case, and gendered clearly means male aggressor => female victim in the context of the article.
To the first part, well, domestic abuse is gendered violence. I disagree that she clearly restricts gendered violence to male-on-female, but don't think it matters either way within the context of the article. I don't see her erasing female-on-male violence simply by not offering explicit discussion of it in an article discussing male violence and ways to reduce it. It would be off-topic for her actual point.
And again, the actual violence that happens is best addressed by focusing on the same gender perceptions that she is discussing. So even if she was to insert a paragraph about female-on-male violence it wouldn't change any of the rest of the article. It was just be a way to head off what-about-the-menz comments, and look like such to anyone reading.
Dude "well intentioned" MEANS inadvertent. I already addressed that.
And ok, it's inadvertent, but so was my criticism of her article's tautology that pretty much all victims = female, all aggressors = male. I never once claimed she did that on purpose. But, just like Ann Mardoll states, it doesn't have to be on purpose.
I... I'm not even sure of your meaning here. The phrasing here doesn't make sense to me at all.
Well intentioned =/= inadvertent. Unless you are explicitly talking about the harm that results from such actions there is a disconnect there. And at no point did you actually discuss the harm, only the intent behind those offering the advice. The whole point of my talking about inadvertent harm was to point out that
there is actual harm, regardless of intent.
I'm assuming you meant that her describing all abusers as male, etc, was inadvertent, not your criticism. And here, sure, she inadvertently did not address female-on-male violence. But again, the article is discussing male violence and male gender roles that encourage such violence. What benefit would there be to talk about something outside the scope of the article in the article?
EDIT: Urg, edits didn't show on the preview.
She made it clear in her article that giving such advice wasn't "maybe" victim-blaming they were 100% certifiable victim-blaming. That's why I said "blatant".
OK. I read the word "blatant" as "obvious", but guess this could just a usage difference and it sort of fits. Again, I think this is rolled into inadvertent nicely. Inadvertent has the lack of intent combined with unavoidable end result, at least in the contexts I usually see it used in. But semantics blah blah.