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[Bdthemag]

As most everything else has already been said:

How the hell do you kiss someone accidentally? Is this an anime we're talking about here?

So kawaii.

[G-Flex]

She was late for school, running out the door with toast in her mouth, and he was standing RIGHT IN FRONT OF THE DOOR when she opened it, and she slammed into him, accidentally planting her lips on his. Then she said "IT'S NOT LIKE I LIKE YOU OR ANYTHING!" and ran off to school before her robot maid noticed she was running late.

[MrWiggles]

The boy stunned by the sudden kissed, and weak with the blood flow to rosy his cheek and sprout a nose bleed, slump to the floor softly. He lies there, in a stupor for a while, before regaining his composure. He stands and calls the robot maid over to browse criaglist.

[Bauglir]

There's blunt honesty and there's unnecessary mockery and I think we're beginning to drift toward the latter.

I agree with the other posters, though, this isn't a relationship you should be trying to preserve. At least not the way you've described it. You need to take a few hours, at least, to consider why you think it's worth saving, and examine whether those reasons are actually true or not. It sounds like you've decided that you love him and need to save this for the sake of your own health, instead of discovering that. And from the sound of it, that decision doesn't match up with the reality at all, but instead with what you feel should be true in order to justify your actions. The criticisms people have made in this thread are good ones, and they're all indicative of a relationship that is not based on love - whatever it might actually be based on.

Love can be a lot of things. It can have selfish desire as a component. But if it's pushing concern for somebody's well-being out of the forefront of your thoughts, that isn't love anymore. If you can't trust somebody with the privacy of an email account you can't read, that's not a relationship based on love - and it doesn't matter what he was doing. Even if everything you fear turned out to be true, all that means is that he decided he didn't love you before you realized you didn't love him anymore. Let me be clear: that doesn't absolve him of responsibility for his actions. It just means that his actions don't absolve you of responsibility for yours. It also doesn't mean that it's always wrong to stop loving somebody.

[Zangi]

*snip*
Not to mention he yells at me, And hits objects when he gets angry... but hes never hurt me...
We have promises to never talk to the opposite sex unless they are family... Also.. Now we have one where he cant hang out with his friends without me.. But i think hes just going behind my back and going to see them... I really dont trust him, And neither does he trust me...
He is irrational, And recently got a new car.... Should i just leave him...?

I'm no expert, but... title and this last paragraph tells me that you should drop your relationship.

Lemme score it out for you....
1. Is his anger/yelling/breaking stuff recent?  As in after the whole cheating thing?  If yes: +20 points  If no: +10 points
(Either way, he has cause for resentment, your current relationship, IE you.   It has a good chance of escalating if issues are not resolved.)
2: One of you cheated and the other cheated in retaliation.  +10 points
3. Neither of you trust each other to be 'chaste' anymore.  +10 points
4. You've restricted each other from being allowed to socialize with people of the opposite gender unless its family.  +10 points
5. You've graduated your social restrictions to 'you' need to be there too when he hangs out with his friends.  +30 points
6. Despite the social restrictions, you still don't trust each other.  +20 points

Now...  I'm counting 90 points, 100 points if his anger/yelling/breaking stuff came after the whole cheating thing.  Congratulations, you win nothing! 
I repeat my recommendation, drop that relationship.

Also, I'm going to guess that he may be unhappy with the current relationship of mistrust and ya know, might not know WTF he wants to do either, thinking that he might love you too.  Going with that, I assure you, with such a dysfunctional relationship, it is not love, both of you may think it is, but it is not.  Don't make it hurt more for him and yourself. Move on.

[weenog]

Maybe you should watch The Princess Bride.  (Yes, I've recommended this for another problem before, it's good for a lot of 'em.)  Sure it's fictional, but it makes some good points.  There are at least three good examples of love (as opposed to "I want to fuck" or "I'm afraid of ending up alone") in that story: Westley and Buttercup's romance is the obvious one, but look also at the friendship of Inigo and Fezzik, and the relationship of the Grandfather and the Grandson.  Consider how they treat each other, and how they don't treat each other.