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[UristMcHuman]

Oy, I don't know why I'm posting this to total strangers...


OK, there's an irresistably unresistable extremely beautiful girl at my school that I'm deeply in love with. I can't get my mind off of her. Each day, at lunch (same lunch unit), I look at her when I can. She sits two tables away from me, so I can't just get up, walk to her table and talk to her. I definitely can't talk to her. Everything I want to say sinks back down at "Umm..." and she walks by. Every day, I think about that girl, while I work, while I eat, and, yes, even while I play DF and other games. Every night, I have trouble getting to sleep because I'm thinking of her. I dream about the girl, about me and her together, walking down the streets hand-in-hand, going out to movies, laying under the stars with her head on my chest, listening to my heartbeat. I dream about the day she and I first kiss. This is unbearable, and I just want it to stop, but it's so hard. I want help as to how to get her to be my girlfriend.

Does anybody have anything that would help???

<sub>I'm only in 7th grade, so PLEASE don't pick on me. It only makes things much harder, and drives my self-esteem down faster.


As a side note, my mom makes bloody good home-made tacos.</sub>

[Stargrasper]

Have her make me some tacos and I'll give you all the advice you want.

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I like to push communication in relationships.  If you can't talk to the girl, then the best thing is to distance yourself from her.  You mind will refocus in eventually.  The intervening time is just going to suck.  If you have feelings for a girl and she doesn't share them, then there is no possible way it can end well.

[Strife26]

Either go talk to her or focus on something else.


Easy answer.

[Stargrasper]

Either go talk to her or focus on something else.


Easy answer.

Am I the only person left that appreciates elegance in temporarily ruining a child's life?

Seriously, OP, this is what you need to do.  Delve into religion or a hobby if you think this is too hard.

[Cthulhu]

Here's an important thing:

Do not not not NOT tell her any of the stuff you've told us until you're officially together and have been so for a while, unless you like being legally obligated to keep those tables at least 100 meters apart at all times.

What I'm trying to say is those fantasies will probably be seen as really premature, and you'll look like a creep.  Keep them to yourself.  Keep things casual.

[ChairmanPoo]

How old is seven grade again? I was going to say "After a while, you get colder", but if he's very young he might have some ten years ahead of him of mad infatuation for girls.

[Stargrasper]

Here's an important thing:

Do not not not NOT tell her any of the stuff you've told us until you're officially together and have been so for a while, unless you like being legally obligated to keep those tables at least 100 meters apart at all times.

What I'm trying to say is those fantasies will probably be seen as really premature, and you'll look like a creep.  Keep them to yourself.  Keep things casual.

I would consider that a given...but this is a kid we're talking about...

How old is seven grade again? I was going to say "After a while, you get colder", but if he's very young he might have some ten years ahead of him of mad infatuation for girls.

Average seventh grader?  Eleven-ish, if I recall.  Regardless, it's an entirely controllable matter.

[UltraValican]

How old is seven grade again? I was going to say "After a while, you get colder", but if he's very young he might have some ten years ahead of him of mad infatuation for girls.

12-13 iirc

[UristMcHuman]

Have her make me some tacos and I'll give you all the advice you want.

You don't even know where the heck I live, and I intend to keep it that way.

I like to push communication in relationships.  If you can't talk to the girl, then the best thing is to distance yourself from her.

I've sent her a friend request on Facebook, and she's accepted twice before, but I can't possibly distance myself from her.

those fantasies will probably be seen as really premature, and you'll look like a creep.  Keep them to yourself.  Keep things casual.

Alright. I'll try.

How old is seven grade again?

Usually 12 to 13.

[Stargrasper]

Hey, if you're going to close the OP with a comment like that, I'm entitled to make a joke about it.

Please explain why you can't distance yourself from the girl?

[Putnam]

It gets better. Trust me.

I had a similar problem. Started in 8th grade, continued well into tenth. Ended with embarrassing moment. Like said, keep any fantasies to yourself. We're still acquaintances, nothing changed much, and I've grown more mature because of it.

Infatuations are a bitch.

[UristMcHuman]

Please explain why you can't distance yourself from the girl?

I don't want to, and truthfully can't, right now.

[Stargrasper]

Please explain why you can't distance yourself from the girl?

I don't want to, and truthfully can't, right now.

I can completely understand why you don't want to.  What's making it so that you can't?  Besides the fact that you don't want to...

[Putnam]

School brings a person close in proximity no matter what. At least, close enough to notice.

You have 2 options, so far as I can see:

1. Act on it personally. Emphasis on personally. Make sure you're face-to-face. Don't message her on facebook about it or anything, don't text, talk with words and body language and face.
2. Ignore it until it goes away. It could work, but great discomfort until then.

[King DZA]

Think of it this way:

If you don't do something you'll miss your chance and regret it until you die. Now you got some motivation to confront her.

Alternatively, do what I do, and not give a fuck. It seems to work ironically well.