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[Haschel]

Doling out advice is fun so I'll take a crack at it, too. It kind of sounds like you need some closure. Set aside whatever is holding you back and go for it. If she shoots you down, big deal. At least you have an answer and can move on to better things.

[Heron TSG]

Did you try the handstand test? If you pull it off and she's not impressed, I will eat my shoe.

[Montague]

First impressions are everything. Maybe first impressions come later in an enviroment like school, but once the impression is made, people stick with them and they are incredibly difficult to alter.

Always put on your A-game when meeting new people and you can be more yourself later.

So I'd stop worrying about this one girl, and next semester, try the hand-stand first thing, first day in class.

[Vector]

Seriously, don't be the creepy puppy.  You may think it's only damaging to you, but it's not.  Given that women are generally placed on a pedestal of meek powerlessness in our society, it can be terrifying to have a guy constantly hanging around you that you don't know how to get rid of or rebuff without losing your "nice" label.

Talking from experience.

[ryan5050]

Well angle You gotta work from a angle. Be kind in every way Show her your a great guy and fun to be around
Try and get into some of the stuff shes into for example. My girlfriend liked dubstep I didn't but i started listening to some of it but
I still didn't like it but I got points for trying. Be romantic Give Her flowers write poems,songs Give her chcolate if all Else fails
Just be open and honest Tell her you like her Tell her what you like about her.

Besides this i don't know But I've not Been on this earth long. some of the veterens On this forums Maybe of better help to you then me.


Good Luck Mate   Ryan5050

[EmperorNuthulu]

 Hey, maybe you should look at this from a different... *puts on sunglasses* angle? YEAAAAAAAAAAAAHH!


 I'm sorry but when I saw someone called angle posted a life advice thread I simply couldn't stay away. Also have you tried being as calm as possible around her? Try to be as normal as you can be, sure she won't think you're some sort of amazing god but she won't think you're that much of a creep.

[G-Flex]

So theres this girl, right?  Well of course. Anyway, let me describe her to you. She's a beautiful person. She has the most brilliant smile, it's like the when the sun bursts through on a cloudy day and illuminates everything with light and warmth. Or when a light goes on in a dark room. Or walking out of a cave into full daylight. And her laugh is wonderful. It's like a warm wind that blows all the clouds away. She's kind and smart and strong, too. But she doesn't think much of me. I first noticed her back at the very end of seventh grade, and am in my senior year now. I tried to approach her in freshman year, but was especially socially incompetent then, and so made a horrible job of it. I can tell that she finds me very uncomfortable to be around, and so I've been trying to not bother her. But I still can't get over her. These past few years, I've been kinda hovering, trying not to bother her but not being able to really move away. Other girls are nice, but I don't really feel anything for them. I find them exhausting and confusing, and don't really enjoy being around them. For example, There were a couple of girls who were vaguely interested in me last year. I tried to be nice to them, but I still didn't really enjoy being around them, and after a while they lost interest. So yeah. I'm in my senior year, so I don't have much time left anyway. Still... Meh. Any advice?

I have an incredibly important question.

How much have you actually interacted with her? You're talking as if she's the best thing on Earth, but do you actually know her on a personal level? It sounds to me like you've built up some image of her in your mind over the years, but that that image has absolutely nothing to do with anything you've learned by actually interacting with her... like you've turned her into some kind of idealized version of what she might be. She's not. She's just a person. A person you evidently don't know, and shouldn't be making such strong judgments about. If I'm wrong about any of the premises I've used here, then I apologize, and please correct me.

[Angle]

I interact with her fairly often. we've had a class together every year so far.

Well angle You gotta work from a angle. Be kind in every way Show her your a great guy and fun to be around
Try and get into some of the stuff shes into for example. My girlfriend liked dubstep I didn't but i started listening to some of it but
I still didn't like it but I got points for trying. Be romantic Give Her flowers write poems,songs Give her chcolate if all Else fails
Just be open and honest Tell her you like her Tell her what you like about her.

Besides this i don't know But I've not Been on this earth long. some of the veterens On this forums Maybe of better help to you then me.


Good Luck Mate   Ryan5050

I'm already nice to her. Hell, I'm already nice to everyone, as best I can be. I don't want to decieve her into liking me, or anything like that, though, which is what a lot of your advice sounds like. I have tried talking to her some. She seems to understand, but still has no interest in me.

Have you tried being as calm as possible around her? Try to be as normal as you can be, sure she won't think you're some sort of amazing god but she won't think you're that much of a creep.

That would probably help. When I'm around her, I tend to focus an awful lot of my attention on her, which is probably rather strange.

[Footkerchief]

Given that women are generally placed on a pedestal of meek powerlessness in our society

And apparently also a pedestal of having a sixth sense for "ques".

That would probably help. When I'm around her, I tend to focus an awful lot of my attention on her, which is probably rather strange.

Why do you do that if it makes her uncomfortable?  Have some respect and back off.

[G-Flex]

I interact with her fairly often. we've had a class together every year so far.

To be fair, this doesn't mean much. I've had plenty of classes with plenty of people, but that doesn't mean I'm friends with all of them, or ever talked to them outside of class.

[BackgroundGuy]

So yeah. I'm in my senior year, so I don't have much time left anyway. Still... Meh. Any advice?

Are you going to die when you graduate (assuming high school)?  Because I have to agree with some of the other posters here, you sound obsessed and like you've put her on a pedestal in your head.  Now I'm going to make a few assumptions here, let me know if any are wrong.

Assumptions: You're attending high school in a first world country.
When you graduate, your age group is somewhat expected to go to college.
You and this girl have access to Facebook, or some other means of contacting each other.

My advice?  Get over her, get over yourself and give up (on her).  Go to college, wait half a year, a year and see if you can still feel the same emotions about her.  Then, if you do, ask her on a date.  She says no, then you get on with your life.

[Vector]

Given that women are generally placed on a pedestal of meek powerlessness in our society

And apparently also a pedestal of having a sixth sense for "ques".

Huh?  I don't know the word "ques..."

[Angle]

All right, maybe I have been obsessed and unrealistic. I'll try and give it up.

[Footkerchief]

Huh?  I don't know the word "ques..."

Referencing a post above.

[Haschel]

There's a rather overwhelming sense of negativity in here. I get why people may think you have an obsession, and these things differ from person to person, but that seems extremely normal to me given the circumstances of high school. I'd like to re-iterate taking an honest attempt at telling her how you feel. Will she shoot you down? Maybe, yeah. But guess what? You stated your peace and took a chance in life and maybe you'll be lucky and things work out. Again though, it might not work out. So you get shot down and you pick yourself up and move on. It might hurt, but you will heal and you will be better for it.

Giving up without trying will be a serious mistake with potential consequences. Wallowing in lost opportunities is not something you want to fall victim to. Take your chances while you're young.