To be frank, though, when I play this game, I tend to liken it not to nethack or those other ancient games, but to more modern ones like Minecraft.
This reminds me of Terry Pratchett being once told that his character Ponder Stibbons was a direct rip-off of Harry Potter. But I don't know how many people know how ridiculous this idea is. (There's another thread out there dealing with time-travel, won't go into it here.)
Not saying
you're saying DF is a rip-off of MC, as you aren't, but just like there are some that say that, if anything, HP
might[1] have been influenced by the niche popularity of DW, MC has been actually acknowledged[2] to be significantly inspired by DF, amongst others.
Also, Toady may be considered a control freak, because he doesn't
want to hire anyone else. It's his baby. (OpenGL/whatever additions, aside) made by him. This is part of the 'contract' we players have with him, in the unwritten sense at least. You will probably find more people on these forums that are happy with this than are not (for obvious reasons... as the unhappy ones may not stick around). As such, you may find a bit of a vehement opinion that "What Toady Does Is Right"[3], and arguing the contrary position isn't going to go down well. So apologies in advance (and for past instances) for instances in which this gets brought home to you, insofar as it is in my power to apologise and not merely to be an apologist.
There
is dissent, of course. There are those crying out for "The next version... Now!" against those who want the next version when Toady is
happy for the next version to come out. There's all kinds of interesting discussions about how to improve the pathing algorithms (usually faster, but also other resource reductions.... or more resources
for more speed, or faster speed but with some short-cuts around strict accuracy) and there's always the "better graphics" argument (not even counting the "custom tileset vs default one" debate).
I know I've made suggestions (or, rather, mumbled some half-coherent ideas of my own). I think I even had one (probably coincidentally) adopted, once. But with so many different people, it can be difficult to find a community opinion that is unanimous, and the casting vote (if, indeed, there was ever any other vote than his) is Toady's.
Insofar as the interface, it's also an argued point, but it's mostly Toady's decision how much (or little) change occurs, and how much (or little) power is given to the various satellite developers (such as those that tout Dwarf Therapist, etc). And this is something you've really got to be happy about (or at least not moan), so as not to get some people getting a bit snarky.
I'm hoping this post isn't seen as snarky, I certainly don't mean it to be and I'm just trying to be thorough, but this point in the post is probably too late if you've already gained the wrong impression.
[1] Probably wasn't
[2]
http://notch.tumblr.com/post/113252305/credits-due[3] FCVO 'right'.