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[Neonivek]

I'm gonna give a piece of advice from my brother:
'it's you life. you do what you want with it. if your parents want you to dump them or leave them to make them happy, they'll have to deal with you keeping your girlfriend/boyfriend.' (I can't rememebr which of his friends  he was speaking to :/)

What is so sad is that in situations like these the prefered course of action for mental and financial health would be to give in to his parents.

The world sucks.

Heck I'll just say it. In all likelyness you will be happier if you dump your girlfriend. Since the law of statistics hates you. (Actually the reasons are obvious as "girlfriends" tend to be transitive while "Parents" are pernament usually)

[mainiac]

Heck I'll just say it. In all likelyness you will be happier if you dump your girlfriend. Since the law of statistics hates you. (Actually the reasons are obvious as "girlfriends" tend to be transitive while "Parents" are pernament usually)

That sounds to me like naive statistics.  Just because most relationships fail doesn't mean most people are the type to ruin long term relationships.

[Virex]

I'm gonna give a piece of advice from my brother:
'it's you life. you do what you want with it. if your parents want you to dump them or leave them to make them happy, they'll have to deal with you keeping your girlfriend/boyfriend.' (I can't remember which of his friends  he was speaking to :/)

It's your life and you carry full responsibility for your actions. If your parents are going to give you hell over your girlfriend then you either have to bite through the barrage or decide that your girlfriend isn't worth a schism. You cannot decide for them what they should accept and what not.

[Vector]

In all likelyness you will be happier if you dump your girlfriend.

I'm... not sure why this would be germane or decisive?

[noodle0117]

You might not be the only person with parents like those.
My parents are a bit more lenient than yours perhaps, although if I ever dated another girl with a distinctively different race who isn't already super successful or famous, I'm pretty sure they'd be having the same thoughts as well.

There are few people who can match the conservatism of a first gen Asian parent.

[Neonivek]

I am not sure Vector why they are automatically racist with this little information provided.

for all you know the girl could be using overly familiar tones. Opening the Fridge without asking. Reaching across the table while eating.

All good ways to make your family hate the person.

Since the conversation went that way, I presented one of those aspects of growing up that sucks but is unfortunately true. (I won't deny that I am likely motivated by being pety)

[Vector]

No, I didn't say "the parents are racist."  I said "why is 'what will make him happiest' automatically what we are considering the deciding factor here?"

[Neonivek]

No, I didn't say "the parents are racist."  I said "why is 'what will make him happiest' automatically what we are considering the deciding factor here?"

I know you didn't I was explaining why I said it. (also I really disliked the immediate jump to "They were racist" some people went to... Given the context it almost says something annoying)

I am not making it the deciding factor. I am only stating that it is there as another possible answer.

[GTM]

Propose a fear factor challenge.  Your parents get to cook the grossest Asian food they can conceive of, and your girlfriend will prepare the grossest white people food possible (haggis, escargot, and some truly grungy provolone cheese).  Then there's an eat-off.  If your girlfriend backs down, she gets dumped.  If your parents back down, they have to accept her.  If they both win, then they have a bonding story to tell over a much tastier holiday dinner later on.

I'm only half joking. I knew a white guy with a Japanese girlfriend, and the parents despised him.... until he sat down at the dinner table, looked the father in the eye, and ate a whole bowl of natto.  Nothing says undying love and cultural respect quite like moldy slimy beans.

(edited to remove assumption that op is in USA or canada)

[Trapezohedron]

I'm pretty sure they're being racist; a lot of my relatives are like that, to the point it doesn't even sound all that odd anymore.

But, I'm just a forum-goer, so I don't have the big picture of things.

Eventually, you'll have to make a compromise, for your GF or your family.

[Neonivek]

until he sat down at the dinner table, looked the father in the eye, and ate a whole bowl of natto.  Nothing says undying love and cultural respect quite like moldy slimy beans.

That is impressive. Not even all Japanese people like Natto (In fact if my sources are correct its popularity is tanking).

Also the worst "White food" isn't in the area of gross... it is in the area of bland or just poor. Such as substandard Meatloaf or Bread pudding.

Mostly because a large bulk of "White food" was finding ways to stretch your food stock as far as it could go by reusing it. While many of them taste good now in their "fresh" form (for example very few people use stale bread for French Toast and no one uses soggy bread for Paninis) they tend to be somewhat bland in their "food that no one would eat" form.

THOUGH I guess if you wanted to make a gross white people plate... I'd go with organ meat.

[DJ]

Parents will always disapprove of something, there's just no pleasing them. Just ignore it and do what makes you happy.

[Wayward Device]

Also the worst "White food" isn't in the area of gross... it is in the area of bland or just poor. Such as substandard Meatloaf or Bread pudding.

You have obviously never eaten jellied eels, sheep head soup (If properly made, the fat forms a skin an inch thick!) nor even the dread "It was out of the fridge yesterday but it's fine, honest" pickled herring. 

[Neonivek]

Also the worst "White food" isn't in the area of gross... it is in the area of bland or just poor. Such as substandard Meatloaf or Bread pudding.

You have obviously never eaten jellied eels, sheep head soup (If properly made, the fat forms a skin an inch thick!) nor even the dread "It was out of the fridge yesterday but it's fine, honest" pickled herring.

Actually I really like Pickled Herring. I don't find it Gross at all. In fact I dislike fish in general but like Pickled Herring!

And Sheep Head Soup doesn't stand up to Lard Burgers.

[MetalSlimeHunt]

I'll tell you what's horrible: pickled eggs and pigs feet.

I mean, what the hell? Who came up with that? Why would anyone think to pickle eggs! Why!? They're horrible! I tried to eat one once, and it set off my gag reflex before it even touched my tongue! That's a goddamn record.