Never thought I'd be posting in this section of the Bay 12 Forums, but hey first time for everything!
Well, I'm a twenty year old, third year college student living with his parents. I'm in the process of trying to find an apartment, but everything's just so... shit right now. I have a girlfriend who's eighteen, a little bit younger than me. We're great together, and it's the best relationship I've had in a very long time. We've been going strong for almost two years now, but there's a problem.
My overly conservative Asian parents dislike her. Not in the disgusted kind of way, but in the 'not good enough, she's got no respect for us,' kind of way. The entirety of their accusations arose from a few dinners we'd had with them. Now, she's no where disrespectful, but she is awfully shy when it comes to tensed situations such as dinner with what plausibly could be her soon to be in-laws. She tries to make conversation but... tends to be quiet over most of the course of the dinners.
They give me this 'disrespectful' bullcrap, and how she comes from a far too lenient family. One time, I just snapped and even told them I'd preferred that leniency to this overwhelmingly structured family.
I... honestly just don't understand. Her parents LOVE me. We have a great time around her family, eating, partying, at events, etc..etc... But there's so much tension and disapproval when it comes to my side. Has any of you ever been involved in something like this? Are my parents (overwhelmingly my mother)'s disapproval even normal? How would I go about solving this?